Met A Boy Through Tinder But It’s Just Very Friendly. How Do I Initiate More?

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Met A Boy Through Tinder But It's Just Very Friendly. How Do I Initiate More?A good way to efficiently initiate more with this guy that you met is to actually ask him out to do something with you in real life.

It could be something as simple as asking him to coffee or to meet up somewhere for a chat.

It is really important that you start taking initiative if you want things between the both of you to go beyond Tinder.

Sometimes, people can just get stuck on Tinder to the point where they don’t really know how to get out of it and actually interact with this person in life.

It is important that you understand what it is that you want out of this.

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If all you want is an online friendship, then it will most likely remain one until communication fizzles out between the both of you.

This is what tends to happen.

If you want more than a friendship, the same thing will most likely happen if you don’t take action to move your interaction beyond Tinder.

Communication will ultimately fizzle out.

Being on Tinder means that this other person that you are very friendly with also has multiple opportunities to talk to other people there.

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They will be distracted by these other people.

In time, they may even become taken by one of them and choose to meet that person.

Once that happens, the communication between the both of you may fizzle until it is extinguished completely.

Hence, time isn’t always on your side.

One way or the other, interest begins to wane online until if fizzles out.

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Hence, if you like this guy, it is important that you make a move now.

Staying friendly with him isn’t necessarily going to guarantee that he ultimately asks you to meet him in life.

There is really no guarantee that this will happen.

He may not even be entirely sure of why he is on Tinder.

Hence, it may be easier for him to maintain this Tinder online friendship with you right now than commit to anything, unless you give him a reason to.

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Tinder is a place where people can easily get lost.

The longer you keep a conversation going on without taking steps to meet offline, the more likely that conversation will ultimately fizzle out and this person’s interest goes to someone else.

To initiate more, it is important, as I mentioned earlier, that you know why it is you are on Tinder.

By knowing that, it will be easier for you to do what needs to be done.

If you are only there for friendship, then you have to be sure of that and take steps to maintain a platonic friendship with this person by perhaps taking your communication to a different medium, like by phone or social media.

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If you are there for romance, then you have to take steps towards that as well by asking this person to meet you in life instead of waiting on them to make that move on you.

The whole point of being on Tinder is to find what it is that you are looking for. Hence, you should be proactive to that end.

Knowing what you want will also give you more ammunition to find other like-minded individuals who are looking for the same thing.

Taking action as soon as you can based on what you feel you want would be your best option.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.