When you are meeting someone for the first time, going to get a cup of coffee is the appropriate choice.
Going to get a cup of coffee keeps you clearheaded.
Having a clear head facilitates in improving communication, avoiding embarrassing situations that ruin a date.
Getting a drink can happen later, a few dates down the line, after you have gotten better acquainted and established a level of comfort with each other.
Now, some people choose to go get a drink when they are meeting someone for the first time, as this is what they are used to doing.
They have never had any issues come out of it.
This being said, never having had any major issues come out of it doesn’t mean that issues can’t happen one day.
You don’t know how well the person that you are about to meet for the first time handles alcohol.
Although you are fully aware of what your alcohol limit is, the person you are meeting for the first time isn’t assured to have the same awareness.
It is wise to err on the side of caution when you are meeting someone for the first time by getting a cup of coffee instead.
Getting a cup of coffee has a number of advantages besides avoiding the inebriation and possible humiliation of your date.
Getting coffee gives you a laid-back environment that facilitates in getting to know each other better.
The environment has an ambiance to it that sets the mood, providing a lot less pressure, as you get to enjoy each other’s company and get to know one another.
There is no expectation of how much coffee you have to drink, as having one cup of coffee is sufficient enough.
Getting drinks on the other hand has a tendency to put people in the mindset that having multiple drinks or shots makes the trip worth it.
In these scenarios, the drinking becomes the focal point of the date, instead of what is being said, and the importance of getting to know each other better.
Whereas, with getting a cup of coffee, you get to relax with that one cup and not feel the pressure of having to get more.
You drink at leisure, giving each other a valid opportunity to talk and pay attention to what is being said.
Getting a drink isn’t conducive to aiding you in paying the utmost attention to what your date is telling you.
Even though you were initially paying the utmost attention, as the night wears on and you or your date are on the third or fourth glass of a drink, attention spans weaken and you are missing out on specific details that you are telling each other.
Play it safe by sticking to getting a cup of coffee when you meet this person for the first time.
In this environment, it’s easier to ascertain whether this is a person you get along with and would want to meet again.
Without the influence of alcohol, you get to give each other sincere responses as opposed to inebriated responses.
Getting a cup of coffee doesn’t sound all that exciting for a first meeting, but it does work in getting you to communicate with each other in an environment that is conducive to rapport-building.
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