When a guy is into you, he spends quality time with you and takes you out on dates that he pays for in the early stages.
He is invested in getting to know you and what you are about.
He is patient with you, maintaining a consistent channel of communication with you.
When he is into you, he wants to know about the people in your life.
The objective is to know more about them.
He befriends them, intent on showing you that he values those who are important to you.
A guy who is into you makes it obvious that he is, as long as he knows that you are being responsive to him, and that you are showing the same amount of interest.
He listens to what you have to tell him and gives you his undivided attention, asking you follow-up questions on what you tell him.
And he remembers your responses to his follow-up questions long after the conversation.
A guy is into you when he is consistent in this proactive and attentive behavior towards you.
Consistency withstands the test of time.
The test of time is confirmation of how serious he is about you.
A guy who is just a player won’t keep up an act for very long, if he isn’t getting what he wants from you.
At first, he is capable of tricking you into believing that he cares as he is listening to you, and calling you, in the early stages of courting you.
But with time, his true colors show.
He forgets details about what you two talked about in the past, and begins to show a lack of empathy when it comes to what matters to you.
In his mind, he is wondering why you are taking so long to fall for his charms.
All of a sudden, he starts calling less.
He cares less about how your day went.
He doesn’t want to know more about your history.
Discussions over text or by phone are cut short.
He is no longer socializing with you for the length of time that he used to.
He keeps coming up with excuses about being busy or that something unexpected has come up.
His behavior over time is how you determine whether he is into you or just a player.
Players struggle with patience, and have a breaking point.
Stick it out and you get to filter them out.
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