With a person that hasn’t been showing an interest in being committed to a relationship, putting pressure on them only exacerbates the situation.
You mustn’t force what isn’t there at this period in time.
Forcing someone to reluctantly commit to a relationship with you is never a good approach.
This becomes a problem as time goes on, considering that they will have moments where they aren’t as engaged in the relationship as you are.
They would do activities with you because they have to as opposed to because they want to.
They are dishonest about their feelings every time you tell them that you love them and they reply likewise.
Basically, you wouldn’t be in a real relationship, but a fabricated one.
Oftentimes, as human beings, we become so engrossed in getting what we want out of someone that we forget that a true relationship is a two-way street.
The other person has to truly feel the same way for it to work.
They have to commit to a relationship because they wholeheartedly want to and not because they felt that they had to or else.
Temper your eagerness in this regard.
You don’t want it to lead to a much worse place.
Now, if you have been dating this person for a while, and they have repeatedly stated that they want to get into a committed relationship in the future, but they keep delaying it, this is a problem.
They are telling you all this so that they keep you around and string you along.
The best way to tell that they are stringing you along and have no intention to ever be in a committed relationship is when you observe that they rarely try to make plans for the future.
They are always living in the now.
In this vain, they avoid meeting your family, or interacting with your friends on a regular basis.
They essentially minimize the amount of contact they have with anyone that is important to you outside of your relationship with them.
They minimize the amount of contact they let you have with their own family and friends.
This is a strong sign that they don’t see a future with you.
They don’t want to put themselves around people you care about, knowing that those people are sure to ask about your relationship, as they inquire about whether a serious commitment is imminent.
Their own family and friends ask this question as well with enough exposure to the both of you.
They keep these exposures and interactions at a minimum.
This is how you know that this person is not serious at all about entering a committed relationship.
At this stage, you should move on.
Try not to look at this in a negative sense.
Not everyone you love and want to be in a committed relationship with is necessarily going to feel or want the same.
Know that you can positively move on with your life and find someone who wants to commit to you.
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