I Lose Interest In Men After I’ve Slept With Them. What’s Wrong With Me?

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I Lose Interest In Men After I've Slept With Them. What's Wrong With Me?

You may be afraid of commitment.

You may be worried that if you were to pursue these men any further after sleeping with them, you could get hurt.

Hence, you may have built a self-defense buffer in your mind.

This may be triggered after you have slept with a guy.

You consequently lose interest in him because you don’t want your mind to consider what could be.

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This is even when you have had a great time with the guy leading up to sleeping with him and when you have even had a great time during the act itself.

You may have been hurt in the past by someone who took advantage of your heart.

This may have closed you off to allowing yourself to go any further with a guy after you have slept with him.

Look back on your past relationships or interactions with guys.

If you know that there is someone who hurt you deeply after you slept with him, this may be the incident that has now sparked this kind of behavior.

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Another reason why you may lose interest in men after you have slept with them may be because you never really had an emotional connection with them to begin with.

There may have been some physical attraction but it never truly went deeper than that.

You do enjoy physical intimacy in general and you may be willing to sleep with these men.

There may be a part of you that hopes that once you have slept with these men, you will feel something other than simply physical attraction.

Hence, you sleep with them because the physical chemistry is there.

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However, after the act, there is still no real emotional chemistry.

Your physical need has been met through the act and now your desire is depleted because there is no more mystery.

You consequently lose interest.

There may be truly a part of you that sleeps with these men in the hopes that it will create that emotional connection.

You only feel the physical connection to start with.

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However, you may hope that something magical will happen after you have slept with a guy so that you can begin to feel a deeper connection to him.

Time and time again, this doesn’t happen.

The problem here is typically based on acting out too soon on what you see visually.

When you don’t give your interactions with men enough time in order for you to build up some emotional camaraderie, you risk losing interest after sleeping with him.

You continue to lean on the hope that sleeping with him will give you that emotional spark but it keeps disappointing.

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Thereby, you may be rushing things with these men and focusing too intently on satisfying a physical need.

Satisfying this physical need may be your initial priority.

However, you do need to understand that sleeping with a guy isn’t going to automatically create that deeper connection.

Oftentimes, if you want this kind of connection, you may be better off dating a guy for a while before you sleep with him.

This kind of time will give you the opportunity to develop deeper feelings that will most likely still be there after you have slept with him because there would be a much deeper foundation of trust.

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It may feel scary at first when you try this because you may have never done this before.

Your initial instinct may be to push back and by so doing retract to what you have always done in the past.

Try to be prepared for this when it arrives and just purposefully remind yourself that you are in need of something deeper in a relationship this time around.

This may help to put you back on track and keep you there.