This could be due to some bad past experiences that you have either had or witnessed someone else have.
You are terrified because you may not want it to happen again or have it happen to you.
If you had a past relationship that didn’t work out, do understand that this relationship was in the past and thereby behind you.
Since then, you have learned and you have grown.
There is nothing wrong in making mistakes in our relationships.
This is how we learn, inform ourselves and are able to move forward in making better choices of our partners or of our own behavior.
Try to evaluate that past relationship.
Was your partner abusive and uncaring?
How about yourself?
Were you abusive or uncaring in the relationship?
As you answer these questions, you should make yourself conscious of the fact that you want to do it different this time.
You want to learn from your past so that your future in relationships is much better.
Hence, do understand that oftentimes it is the past choices we have made in partners and in our behavior that may have led to a failed relationship.
By understanding this and having a willingness to make changes, you will stop being terrified of relationships and everything that comes with it.
Now, if the problem is not so much your past dating experiences but what you have witnessed, do understand that those relationships weren’t your own.
Just because a close friend or family member of yours had a traumatic relationship doesn’t mean that you will experience the same.
If anything, this is the time for you to be cognizant of that person’s mistakes and try to steer clear of doing the same.
There is no reason why you can’t have a healthy and fulfilling relationship without all of the fear that you think you will experience.
Just think about the type of person you are.
Are you warm, considerate, kind, giving, etc.?
If you are all or some of these things, simply look for these same qualities in a mate.
Give it time when you meet them.
Try to avoid jumping into any relationship until you have had the time to judge that person’s temperament and conclude whether it truly mirrors your own.
The reason why it is so important to take your time in getting to know someone is because people can be deceiving.
The first time you meet them, they may present themselves in a totally different fashion from who they truly are.
They may try to mirror your kindness.
They do this in the hopes of impressing you and thereby tricking you into a relationship.
Once in a relationship, you discover that they are far from kind.
Unfortunately, by this point, your emotions may be so invested in the person that you are trapped and uncertain of how to get out or what to do.
This is how a lot of people end up in bad relationships. Hence, do give it time when you are getting to know someone.
It’s very hard for a person to maintain a facade when you give it time.
At some point, if they are being dishonest about who they truly are, they will be unable to keep up the act because it is quite a challenge to not be yourself from day to day.
This is when you know that you are dealing with a person you should avoid.
If you use these approaches in your dating life, you will find that your terror of relationships and everything that comes with it may completely disappear.