Even though you like this person, you don’t want a relationship with them, believing you aren’t of the frame of mind to take on the challenge.
You had a previous relationship that didn’t work out and you are worried about repeating the same mistakes.
You have observed relationships around you that failed and you are worried that if you were to get into a relationship with this person, it would be destined to fail too.
You are worried that in getting into a relationship with this person, they discover new elements about you that turns them off.
This leads to them leaving you.
You are worried about the heartbreak and pain that comes with getting into a relationship with this person and and failing.
The thought of how you would struggle to manage this outcome is terrifying.
You are fearful about this heartbreak and what it could do to you emotionally.
These are fears that people have when it comes to relationships.
They worry so much about different outcomes.
They have created these outcomes in their heads based on experience, what they have observed or simply through their own internal anxieties.
Something you do need to understand is that no relationship is without risk.
If you believe that all you need to do is wait it out until you meet the perfect person, you are mistaken and misguided.
There is no such thing.
No relationship comes with a guarantee that everything is going to work out.
No relationship comes with a sticker that reads, “Guaranteed Success Or Your Money Back.”
This means that we are prone to mistakes and mishaps.
This is just the way it is.
Life just doesn’t work that way. We are not robots or commodities. We are human beings.
When you keep holding back on relationships, worried that it won’t be perfect, you are susceptible to holding back for the rest of your life.
There are no perfect relationships.
Yes, there are misunderstandings and arguments from time to time.
Unfortunately, sometimes, there is betrayal.
All these negatives are possible.
However, relationships can work out amid problems that arise.
These problems or issues, when overcome, strengthen the relationship.
Each partner learns what works and what doesn’t.
You discover your strengths and weaknesses as individuals and as a team.
You learn from these lessons and apply yourselves in a better fashion moving forward.
This is how you build a steady and successful relationship.
Most good relationships work out like this.
They aren’t perfect.
Bearing this in mind, take a chance on dating this person.
It’s time to move forward with your life.
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