Even though you like this person, you may not want a relationship with them because you may believe that you are just not of the frame of mind to take on the challenge.
Perhaps you had a previous relationship that didn’t work out and you are worried about repeating the same mistakes.
You may have observed relationships around you that failed and you are worried that if you were to get into a relationship with this person, it would fail as well.
You may even be worried that if you were to get into a relationship with this person that you like, they may discover new elements about you that may turn them off.
You may worry that this may lead to them leaving you.
You may even be worried about heartbreak and the pain of what it would mean if you were to get into a relationship with this person and then the relationship ends.
You may fear that you wouldn’t know how to deal with this outcome.
You are fearful about this kind of heartbreak and what it could do to you emotionally.
These are all fears that some people tend to have when it comes to relationships.
They worry so much about different outcomes.
They have created these outcomes in their heads based on experience, what they have observed or simply through their own internal anxieties.
Something you do need to understand is that no relationship is without risk.
If you believe that all you need to do is wait it out until you meet the perfect person, you are mistaken and misguided.
There is no such thing.
No relationship comes with a guarantee that everything is going to work out.
No relationship comes with a sticker that reads, “Guaranteed Success Or Your Money Back.”
This means that we are prone to mistakes and mishaps.
This is just the way it is.
Life just doesn’t work that way. We are not robots or commodities. We are human beings.
If you keep holding back on relationships because you are worried that it won’t be perfect or you have all the anxieties I described earlier, you may be holding back for the rest of your life.
Again, there are no perfect relationships.
Yes, you will have misunderstandings, arguments from time to time, you may even experience betrayal etc.
All these things are possible.
However, relationships can work out amid the problems that will arise.
In fact, these problems or issues, if overcome, often strengthen the relationship.
You both learn what works and what doesn’t.
You both discover your strengths and weaknesses as individuals and as a team.
You learn from these lessons and apply yourself in a better fashion moving forward.
This is how you can build a steady and successful relationship.
This is how most good relationships work out.
They aren’t perfect.
You should be willing to take a chance and start dating this person that you like if you want to start moving forward with your life.
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