Exclusively Dating, Yet He Doesn’t Reply To My Text Messages. Should I Ask What’s Going On?

Exclusively Dating, Yet He Doesn't Reply To My Text Messages. Should I Ask What's Going On?


There is a problem if you are both exclusively dating and he isn’t replying to your text messages.

Your approach to all of this shouldn’t be confrontational as you point the finger of blame at him.

When you talk about this, you should simply be honest with what has been going on and ask him the reason.

Try not to make him feel like he has to go on the defensive.

Your objective when you approach him to ask him the reason shouldn’t be to make yourself out to be the victim and make him feel like he is a bad boyfriend.

You can’t make that assumption quite yet.

If he has been attentive to you in other ways, his lack of replying to your text messages may not be an issue that has to do with how he feels about you and the relationship.

If he is more consistent with talking to you on the phone or meeting you in person to talk, he may prefer this method of communication over texting.

He may even have a history of not replying to text messages with friends and even family.

In other words, you may not be the problem at all.

This is why your approach should be warm and done in a way that allows him to feel like he can express himself without having to become defensive.

After all, you do want him to speak sincerely.

You do want this.

If you were to upset him right from the start, you may make him so emotional that he replies in a way that is dishonest.

When a person gets caught up in the moment, they are more susceptible to allowing their emotions to get the best of them.

This is not how you should want him to feel.

Again, like I mentioned earlier, he may not be the biggest proponent of texting.

He may have had this history throughout his life.

Also, if this relationship is relatively new, he may not be entirely comfortable with responding to your text messages.

In other words, he may not be quite used to getting this kind of consistency in messages.

He may be used to not getting that many at all.

Now that you are in his life as his girlfriend, he is suddenly receiving a surge of messages.

He may not be used to this and may not quite know how to continuously respond to them.

In other words, it may take some time for him to get used to the fact that he is now in a relationship and has to start being more responsive through text.

If this is a guy who hasn’t had that much experience with relationships, he may not quite know how to handle all of these messages.

He may be used to shorter and more sporadic communication with his friends and family members.

However, you are sending him messages possibly multiple times a day and he may not quite know how to respond to this novelty.

Also, understand that you should be aware of just how often you text him messages.

You may not be aware that you are doing it too much.

If he gets a sense that you text too much, you may cause him to respond less.

It may be too much for him and he may start to believe that you are needy.

Ensure that you aren’t doing this.

Sending him less text messages for now may inspire him to start replying more.

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