A guy who looks at other girls when he is out on dates with you is drawn to their visual beauty.
It is near impossible for him not to look.
Obviously, this doesn’t excuse his behavior nor does it give you much consolation.
You believe he is being disrespectful and it makes no sense to you.
This guy, along with many others, have the opposite view.
In his mind, he is merely admiring and nothing more.
A guy interprets this behavior as taking note of beautiful girls but not taking it any further than that.
This is how most guys who look at other girls when on a date with a girl often justify what they are doing.
It is only looking.
It is only admiring.
They use this as their internal mantra.
Of course, you don’t see it that way.
You want this guy’s attention to always be on you.
You want him to give you the respect of not looking at other girls when he is out on a date with you.
Your sentiments are justified.
That being said, take a moment to look at this from the perspective of many guys.
In grasping how they think, you can take the next course of action.
Since you want this behavior to stop, your best course of action is to admire those girls too and comment.
Every time he is looking at another girl, ask him something about her.
Be humorous and lighthearted about it.
Ask him what he thought about her shoes.
He is taken aback at first.
He would not be expecting you to do this.
Nonetheless, you asked him a question and he is now on the spot.
You have put him on the spot in a humorous way.
You weren’t snapping at him for looking at another girl.
You merely asked him a question about what he thought about her shoes.
He gives you a vague answer or no answer at all.
This is the first step.
The next time you see him looking at other girls, ask him what he thought about her hair.
He is taken aback by this.
He chuckles some but he is relatively nervous.
He doesn’t know how to respond to the question.
The next time he is looking at another girl while on a date with you, ask him whether he thinks she took a shower that day.
Again, he is going to be taken aback, but now he is noticing a pattern in what you are doing.
He is noticing that every time he is looking at other girls, you are asking him questions about them.
These are lighthearted questions but he is distressed in answering them.
You have now programmed him to believe that you will keep doing this.
To avoid putting himself in these awkward moments, he stops looking at girls completely when he is out on dates with you.
You have disarmed him by using a humorous and witty approach.
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