When a person is affectionate in person but neutral over text, they are more comfortable when they are face to face with you.
Basically, they prefer it when they are there with you physically than when they are using a keypad to communicate.
It’s grueling for them to express how they are feeling over text.
There are people who have a tough time with this.
You are a pro at this whole texting thing.
Nonetheless, not everyone is like you.
Some people are just more adept at expressing themselves and showing affection when they are with someone physically than when they have to type it out.
This person is a lot more comfortable expressing their affection in a face to face setting than by using words through text.
They aren’t good with words in the first place.
They don’t like having to use them to convey affection, as they lack any confidence in their writing ability.
You text all the time, adept at using words, but this isn’t the person you are dealing with.
Not everyone is good with words.
They can play around with words and banter.
However, when it comes to showing affection over text, it is a lot different.
So, remember that not everyone is like you.
Just because you are at ease using words over text doesn’t mean that other people that you date are likewise.
Consider that a person who is neutral over text doesn’t want to get carried away, and end up saying something they shouldn’t have.
It is easier to gauge whether they are taking things too far when they are face to face with you.
They observe your body language.
They watch and analyze.
If they see that you are smiling, they are getting positive feedback.
This in turn encourages them to be more affectionate.
When you are touching them from time to time, they are encouraged as well.
They can tell that you are enjoying being around them and you are trying to create a connection.
Due to this feedback through your body language, they are more affectionate with you.
They hug you close and keep you there for a while.
They got here through gauging your behavior, based on how you were acting while you were interacting with them physically.
It can be a lot harder to gauge just how much someone is enjoying another person’s company when they are texting.
Since they are purely texting you without the added benefit of observing your body language, they choose to be cautious and remain neutral.
They don’t want to make any assumptions over text.
They don’t have a clear idea of what mood you are in today or whether you would respond to any flirty or affectionate gestures in a positive way.
Consequently, they save their affection for the next time they get to see you in the flesh and face to face.
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Hi my name is Maureen and im almost 20 in a few weeks and i have been dating this guy for 9 months and i go over to his place when he can and when im there with him he is very affectionate but in text i feel like i do everything. I say, i hope you have a good day at work i send hugs and kisses etc. He doesn’t. I motivate him and ask about his day and you know try to make a conversation but he doesn’t ask much about my life. Even when i graduated high school i told him weeks and days before it arrived and i showed him pics and he NEVER once said Congratulations. He only said, see i told you you’d make it. To me THATS a major heart break. I had family send me checks and cards and he never did send me a card or something. A simple card from him would of made my day.
I know some it might not be a big deal to graduate High school but these days it is. Tests are harder and work is as well. Not once has he said congrats. I’ve gotten him gifts and for his mom too but i know gifts won’t open his eyes. Please i need some advice.