When your boyfriend isn’t much of a family person with his own family, exhibiting the same behavior with your family is almost inevitable.
His disinterest in having a relationship with your family has nothing to do with your family in general.
It stems from his own experiences with his family and how he handles his own family.
When he is not close with his own family and avoids them, he has a higher inclination to avoid getting close to having a relationship with your family.
In a context where he isn’t close to his own family, find out why.
If you have already been around his family and observed that they are very eccentric, selfish, or unloving, you have pinpointed the problem.
A boyfriend that has talked to you in the past about his unhappiness with his family and why that is, has given you something to work with.
You would have to convince your boyfriend that your own family won’t treat him the same way his family has.
They won’t treat him poorly or disrespectfully.
One of the best ways to do this is to gradually bring your individual family members around him from time to time that have the same interests that he does.
Should you have a sibling that shares a love for something that your boyfriend is passionate about, bringing that one sibling around your boyfriend from time to time enables your boyfriend to find common ground.
Guys tend to bond with each other over sports.
With a boyfriend who has a love for baseball, you have an opening to invite your sibling to hang out with all of you and watch that baseball game on Sunday.
This is an area where your boyfriend can develop a strong bond with your sibling over time.
When he learns your sibling knows a lot about baseball, just as he does, he becomes less adamant to his presence.
When your boyfriend is privy to the excitement your sibling has for baseball and how your sibling analyzes the game, giving his opinion, your boyfriend marvels.
This makes your sibling more and more endearing to your boyfriend.
Start in small doses.
You don’t want to overwhelm your boyfriend.
Were you to gradually bring your one sibling into these situations, a bond can slowly develop between your sibling and your boyfriend.
Suddenly, he is asking whether your sibling is coming over to watch the game so that he can get the beer ready.
This is when you are making progress.
A boyfriend that gets this comfortable with your sibling, observing his mannerisms, and concluding that he doesn’t possess the negative qualities of people within his own family, is willing to meet and develop relationships with other members of your family over time.
He assumes that other members of your family must have similar attributes to your sibling.
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