Your boyfriend is worried about the pregnancy and its trajectory.
He becomes overbearing, responding to his internal fears.
Perhaps this is his first child and he worries that something is going to go wrong or that he ends up not being a good father.
He is nervous.
He has anxiety based on his own family history or experience, as he didn’t have the best childhood.
He is looking back on his life wondering whether he ends up being just like his unloving father or mother.
This is fear-inducing.
When he becomes overbearing, he is compensating for this.
He is doing everything he can think of in order to prevent himself from believing that he is destined to do as poor a job as his father or mother did.
All this anxiety can build up to the point where he becomes extremely overbearing.
He isn’t aware he is being this overbearing to you, believing that he is making all the right moves.
He believes he is doing what he is supposed to be doing and that you should be grateful that he is being this attentive to your pregnancy.
Nonetheless, this is overbearing and it has indeed put a damper on how you feel about him.
He is a perfectionist by nature.
Perhaps he wants you to have the best pregnancy possible so that the child is healthy when delivered.
He wants you to eat the right foods and stay away from anything that is even remotely dangerous for the child.
He doesn’t want you to perform any strenuous activity or continue hanging out with your friends the way you used to.
He is a perfectionist and believes that everything must be done by the book and in the right way.
As a perfectionist by nature, he would approach your pregnancy in the same vain.
Let him know you have this under control and that he doesn’t have to be so overbearing.
He isn’t aware of how far he has taken this.
Unfortunately, he has become judgmental of you in general.
Choices that you used to make with your life that he had no issue with have now become a problem.
These choices are now a problem, as it is now all about the baby.
He has no real experience with this sort of thing so he merely assumes that you are in the wrong for lying in bed a certain way or posturing a certain way.
In a situation like this, educating him about how pregnancy should be handled is helpful.
Sit him down and tell him about how things work.
Enlighten him by having him read some books or watch a few videos about pregnancy.
Once you educate him to the true facts about pregnancy and what is and isn’t permitted, his overbearing behavior lessens, being that you have educated him.
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