Anywhere from 3 days or more after the first date is when you may start to get worried about them not calling.
However, there are some exceptions.
If your date had told you that they had something planned for the next few days, perhaps a trip somewhere with family or friends, you don’t have to be worried about it, yet.
Your date may be genuinely unavailable for a number of days to a week.
If this is a guy that you don’t know that well, it would not be unusual for you not to hear from him during this period.
However, this is about where the exceptions end.
If your date had a great first date, they would naturally want to talk to you and even plan for a second shortly after.
If it has been 3 days or more since you have heard from this person and they didn’t tell you anything about the next few days being preoccupied due to prior engagements, this person is most likely not interested in you.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you won’t hear back from them.
You just might.
However, if this person contacts you about two weeks after your first date trying to touch base with you, there is a very good chance that they have a very low level of interest and you are not high on their dating priority list.
When this kind of time elapses, there is more than likely someone else or more people that they are dating.
Perhaps, something didn’t go well with one or more of them and they choose to contact you after the fact.
You should try to understand that this means that you weren’t that important to them to begin with.
Hence, if you were to simply jump at the opportunity to go out with them on a second date, you may be merely filling in the slot until someone that they truly like comes along.
Bearing this in mind, try not to get carried away even if you were to hear from this person at some point in the future.
You would have to truly ask yourself if this is someone worth your time.
You would have to find out what this person’s true intentions are and not be afraid to have them be honest with you about them.
They may say something dishonest simply because they want to save face.
However, this is when you would have to make an informed decision based on what this person has shown you through their actions and what your instincts tell you.
If you decide to have a second date with them after not having heard from them for weeks since the first date, do so with caution and ensure that you don’t go into it with a lot of expectations.
However, your better bet may be not to go out with this person again.
If they were able to forget you for several weeks after the first date, who is to say that they will not do the same after the second date.
You don’t want to be anybody’s third or fourth choice.
This would only make you feel that you aren’t worthy and could affect your sense of self-esteem.
This then affects how you approach your future interactions with potential dates.
This is an effect that you should try to avoid as much as possible.
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