Anywhere from 3 days or more after the first date is when you start to get worried about them not calling.
There are exceptions.
If your date told you that they had something planned for the next few days, such as a trip somewhere with family or friends, you don’t have to be worried about it, yet.
Your date is genuinely unavailable for a number of days to a week.
Should this be a guy you don’t know that well, it isn’t unusual for you not to hear from him during this period.
This is about where the exceptions end.
Assuming they had a great first date, they would naturally want to talk to you and plan for a second shortly after.
When it has been 3 days or more since you have heard from this person and they didn’t tell you anything about the next few days being preoccupied due to prior engagements, this person is most likely not interested in you.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you won’t hear back from them.
You just might.
When this person contacts you about two weeks after your first date attempting to touch base with you, they have a very low level of interest and you are not high on their dating priority list.
With this much time, there is more than likely someone else or more people that they are dating.
Perhaps, something didn’t go well with one or more of them and they choose to contact you after the fact.
You weren’t that important to them to begin with.
Jumping at the opportunity to go out with them on a second date, is nothing more than you are merely filling in the slot until someone that they truly like comes along.
Bearing this in mind, don’t get carried away, regardless of whether you were to hear from this person at some point in the future.
Ask yourself about whether this is someone worth your time.
Find out what this person’s true intentions are without fear.
Whatever they say shouldn’t be taken at face value.
People have been known to say something dishonest in occasions like this, wanting to save face.
This is when you make an informed decision based on what this person has shown you through their actions and what your instincts tell you.
Should you decide to have a second date with them after not having heard from them for weeks since the first date, do so with caution and don’t go into it with a lot of expectations.
Your better bet is to not go out with this person again.
In forgetting you for several weeks after the first date, who is to say that they will not do the same after the second date.
You don’t want to be anybody’s third or fourth choice.
This makes you feel like you aren’t worthy and affects your sense of self-esteem.
This further affects how you approach your future relations with potential dates.
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