Being disappointed about your first date ever is not abnormal.

There are quite a number of people who go on their first date and end up disappointed.

Figure out what caused this disappointment.

Perhaps you had a lot of expectations going into this first date.

You had visualized how it was all going to go down in your head and you hoped that it would play out exactly as you had envisioned it.

Creating such a rigid picture of how you want a first date to go can be very detrimental to it.

You behave in a certain way during the date as you force the issue.

Being that you saw how things would go in your head, you begin to push conversation and the way you behave during the date towards that vision.

This is dangerous, as it keeps you from giving the date room to naturally unfold.

You have expectations of how your date should behave or what your date should say that ends up not happening the way you envisioned it.

This creates disappointment and your energy level during that first date takes a hit, leaving you unhappy and lacking enthusiasm.

This was the reason why you were disappointed about your first date.

It is never a good idea to come in with preconceived expectations and acting upon them.

You also have to examine the kind of first date you went on.

Were you in an environment that you weren’t used to, which caused you to be uneasy during the date?

You decided to go to this location on your first date to be diplomatic and chose to engage in an activity that you don’t typically do.

All of this caused anxiety on your part which ultimately led to disappointment about the first date.

Your disappointment with the first date was a result of how poorly you two got along during the date.

Perhaps the conversations weren’t as fun and fluid as you wanted them to be.

The topics discussed were dull and uninspiring.

Conversation during a date is a two-way street.

When your date is the one who is keeping the conversation going by coming up with topics to talk about, you are not actively participating.

This makes for a difficult time spent together.

Your date was nervous about the date from the beginning.

On top of this, they had to constantly come up with topics of discussion, worried about the date slipping into awkward silence.

In their haste to keep the conversation going, they come up with lackluster topics.

In the end, in order to ensure that you have a better date next time, look to how you behaved in the first one.

Reduce your expectations and be proactive in discussions.

This can take you far.

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