He may have been lying to you when he said that he wanted a second date.
He may have felt like this was something that you wanted to hear and may not have truly meant it.
A guy’s actions speak a lot louder than his words.
When a guy doesn’t follow through on making that call or text for the second date, he is not serious about the girl.
A guy who is serious about a girl would be excited to set up a second date and would have one with her in short order.
There are guys who just don’t know how to come right out and say that they aren’t interested.
They leave you hopeful of a second date but then dash your hopes.
You should also take cues from what happened on your first date.
Try to start understanding male body language so that you don’t get led on like this again.
A guy who is interested in you on your first date will typically try to touch you from time to time.
He may touch you on your arm, thigh or face.
There will be a part of him that wants to establish a form of connection through touch.
Always look for this.
You should also study the way he moves his body.
A guy on a first date with you would try to get closer to you as you converse.
He may lean in closer to you or move an extremity(hand, leg) closer to yours.
He is doing this due to romantic interest.
You are making him feel good and he wants to get closer to that source of joy.
A guy would also preen when he is interested in a girl on their date.
When he preens, he is adjusting his clothing or hair quite often.
It is a sign of him trying to better his appearance so that he can be more appealing to you.
He may do this unconsciously as the both of you interact.
This is a very strong body language sign of interest.
I would be willing to bet that this guy who told you that he wanted a second date but didn’t call or text barely exhibited any of these signs, if any.
Knowing what to look for in a guy’s body language on future dates can really help you tell if he truly liked you.
That way, even if he told you that he would like a second date but never calls or texts, you wouldn’t be all that surprised.
This would be because you would have been able to tell through his body language at the date that he wasn’t truly interested in you.
This guy may have also told you that he wanted a second date but never called or texted because you may not have been a priority to him.
He may be dating other girls at the moment.
Those girls may be more important to him.
He may have thought that he would try a second date with you but decided to go on another date with another girl that he has also been dating.
He likes this girl more than he does you.
He gave her priority over you.
Unfortunately, he did this at your emotional expense.
However, try not to dwell on this. Move on to other guys.
He has already shown himself to be untrustworthy by his words and not backing up those words with action.
Thereby, this is not the kind of person you should want to date anyway.
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