You should ask yourself about who you feel would be the best fit for you at this stage in your life and into the future.
Your best friend may be better as a friend than as a lover.
Your crush may be better as a friend than as a lover as well.
In fact, your best option may be neither of these two options.
The most important task for you right now is just to figure out where they both fit in your life and in what you are looking for in a relationship.
You do not have to choose either one at this time if you believe that there is something missing.
This is the mistake that so many girls in your situation make.
You are not obligated to choose one just because they like you.
First and foremost, you should look at your life and what you want out of it at this stage.
Is there a goal or career path that you are headed toward that means a lot to you at this time?
Is there something that you are really hoping to accomplish in your life in the near future?
Now, think about this.
Who would be the best person out of the two that would support you on this journey.
Getting into a relationship is a commitment.
You shouldn’t simply get into one for the sake of doing so.
If there is a dream or goal that you have, you have to be able to achieve that without being hindered.
If your guy best friend would seem like the kind who would support you on this endeavor and is even on his own path of fulfillment, he may be your best option.
If it is your crush, then your crush may be your best option.
The key here is not to allow yourself to get so caught up between these two individuals that you forget what is most or at least equally important, you.
You are important. The stage in your life in which you currently are is important.
Where you want to go with your life into the future is important.
These are all factors that need to be considered.
Whoever you believe would facilitate that journey of self is probably your best option for a relationship.
Another thing you should also think about is how each of these guys would respond to parts about you that may not be that appealing.
Oftentimes, people see what they want to see when they like someone.
They will see only the good and either ignore the bad or turn a blind eye to it.
This is dangerous because it prevents them from facing reality.
If you know that one of these two options has actually seen you at your worst or when you are the most vulnerable and yet has never judged you for that, that person may be your best option.
You should want to be with someone who you know can handle you both when you are at your best and at your worst.
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