If you are torn between two lovers, you should decide if you want to have one or both.
If you decide that you want to have one, you should consider the kind of relationship you want.
Are you looking for a long term relationship or a short term casual relationship?
If you want a long-term relationship, you should pick the lover that is fine with your flaws.
This is the person that has seen you at your worst and still accepts you.
They see you for what you are and are simply happy to be with you.
If both lovers are like this, you should pick the lover that you feel most comfortable sharing your most intimate secrets with.
You will notice that there will be one that you realize you feel most comfortable with in doing this.
The reason why this should be your barometer is because in a long term relationship, the element of trust is extremely important.
This is someone that you are going to have in your life for a while.
They will go through all the good times and bad with you.
You should be able to feel that you can share your most vulnerable thoughts with them without the fear of judgment.
If you are looking for a short-term casual relationship, you should pick the lover that you tend to have the most nonsensical banter with.
The one that doesn’t necessarily want to have all that “talk” but would rather “do.”
The one that seems more engaged in the present than in thinking about the future.
This kind of mindset.
If you decide that you want both, you should let them both know that you are seeing people.
They should know that there are other people involved.
You don’t have to tell them who exactly.
Simply letting them know that you are also seeing others is enough.
If they choose to stay, you get to have both.
However, do understand that choosing this path typically leads to jealousy not only on their part but yours as well.
Just because you think that you can handle two lovers doesn’t mean you won’t get jealous when one pays another woman or man more attention than they do you.
That could cause friction in both relationships.
Hence, your best option is to figure out the type of relationship you want and pick one based on that.
If you continue to be divided between them, it could get to the point where you make yourself miserable.
You may even try to sabotage both relationships at some point because you are just looking for an out due to all the pressure.
Hence, the sooner you choose the right lover for you, the better.