Putting a time frame on when it is acceptable to sleep with a new guy is tricky and difficult, given that much of it depends on how you two connect emotionally.
You act in an unnatural way, trying everything in your power to push your true emotions aside just so that you don’t give in to your desires.
This makes the process of dating this new guy a lot more stressful than it needs to be.
Know where you stand mentally at this stage in your life.
When you are dealing with emotions that you haven’t gotten over, based on what happened in your last relationship, sleeping with this new guy too soon isn’t the best idea.
You don’t want him to seem like a rebound.
Nevertheless, when you are open and you are not wrestling with emotional issues from a previous relationship or emotional issues in general, you are in a better position to let things unfold naturally.
This makes it easier on you.
When there is chemistry between you and a romantic connection, it feels natural to sleep with this new guy at the appropriate time.
You don’t have to lay out a defined time frame or length of time.
There is a mutual awareness of when it feels right.
Something else you should also consider is where this new guy is coming from mentally as well.
Is he stuck on an old girlfriend?
Does he seem like he could care less about you and would rather just do it?
A guy who is at a place mentally that doesn’t agree with you, warrants caution.
The problem that so many people have in your situation is that they sleep with the new guy when they aren’t ready, convinced the new guy wants it.
Out of fear of losing the new guy, they give in.
Approaching this situation in this manner is detrimental to your emotional well-being.
You begin to care for a guy who strictly wanted to sleep with you and nothing else.
Should this be all you wanted from the beginning, there isn’t a problem.
When you sleep with a guy to appease him, out of fear of losing him, you end up getting seriously hurt.
You must ensure that you are emotionally ready to sleep with this new guy and not emotionally distraught from a previous relationship.
You must corroborate that this guy is at the same place you are mentally and not stuck on an emotional roller coaster, thanks to his previous relationship either.
With mutual chemistry and emotional compatibility, the intimacy happens naturally, and wouldn’t have to forced or wedged into a time line.
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