This is a very common fear.
People often stay in bad relationships because they fear that they can never find anyone else that will love them and be there for them.
This is a false fear.
Remember that there was a time when your boyfriend was actually not in your life.
Remember that time?
Well, you were just fine then. You were still as vivacious and unique as you were when you met him.
In other words, you were your unique self and you had good relationships with friends, colleagues and family.
You will still be this person if you were no longer with your boyfriend.
True, you may be upset at first.
You may miss him.
You may doubt the reasons why you decided to break up with him.
However, eventually, your personality as unique as it is, will shine through again.
Guess what will happen when that occurs?
Someone else will take notice.
Yes, someone else will take notice.
They will do so just like your boyfriend did when he first met you.
The point here is that being worried that you won’t find someone else is just pointless and without warrant.
Your boyfriend is not the only one in the world who can see your dynamic personality.
He is not the only one in the world who would be willing to be a part of that.
When you start telling yourself that you can’t find anyone else, it really becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
This is the danger of thinking in this way.
It really narrows your mindset and debilitates your sense of self-esteem.
This is how so many people stay in bad relationships that ultimately lead to a break up anyway.
However, they stayed in it for way too long.
By the time they have gotten out of it and the relationship is over, they are a shell of who they once were.
That dynamic personality has been extinguished.
They feel used up and betrayed.
You don’t want to be this person.
In fact, you deserve better.
If you are unhappy with your boyfriend and this has not improved regardless of how hard you have tried, it may be time to end your relationship with your boyfriend.
The longer you prolong it, the harder it will be to get out of.
You will essentially waste precious time working on a relationship that has no future and is mentally destructive.
I know that it can be hard to make such a bold move.
However, you really have to consider your mental state of being and your future.
Do you want to be happy?
I am sure the answer is yes.
Has your boyfriend been making you happy?
Have you tried to make this relationship work to no avail?
If that is a yes, you are justified in leaving this relationship.
Understand that your boyfriend may be perfectly happy with the current state of affairs.
He may even tell you that he loves you from time to time.
You may take this as a reason to stay.
However, if he is complacent with the relationship and you aren’t, you are the one who is losing.
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