To avoid being a rebound, avoid getting into a relationship with this person too soon.
When you get so immersed in your emotions and how you feel about someone, you are a lot more susceptible to getting into a relationship with that person too quickly.
You need to give it time.
The time you spend getting to know this person is also the time that will give you the opportunity to learn about their relationship past.
It allows you to know just how long this person has been out of a relationship.
If you learn that this person just got out of a relationship in the last one or two weeks, this is when you pause.
This is when you will have to use your better judgement regardless of how good you feel about this person.
This is the point where you practice caution.
Unfortunately, this is the part that so many people can also get deceived.
You may have learned that this person just got out of a relationship a week or two ago, however, they tell you that the relationship was painful.
They may give you a sob story that starts influencing the way you think.
You may start feeling sorry for this person.
You may even get a little angry at this person’s previous partner.
How could they have treated this seemingly sweet and wonderful person like this?
You may become so caught up in being sorry for this person that you forget about the fact that they just got out of a relationship.
You believe that you should help make it up to this person who seems so sweet and endearing.
You make yourself available to them and you open up to them in a way that you normally wouldn’t with someone you just met.
You do this in order to show this person that you are not like their past partner that treated them so bad.
You are a much nicer and kinder individual.
Unfortunately, this is when you begin to lose your rational mind and you begin to fall for a desire to make things better for this person.
This kind of desire is very intoxicating.
You may not realize it is there until it is too late.
It is too late because you have now gotten intimate with this person too soon and you are beginning to generate feelings for them.
This person that just got out of a relationship a week or two ago.
Now you have been drawn in and you didn’t see it coming.
This is why you must not allow yourself to get caught up in the stories.
A person who just got out of a relationship can be very good in making it seem like they were the victim of their previous relationship.
Unfortunately, you only get to hear this person’s side of the story.
You never got to hear the other person’s side of the story.
Perhaps the other person’s side of the story is different.
Perhaps the other person was done wrong.
You don’t know that because all you have to go on is what this person that you are interested in is telling you.
To avoid being a rebound, your best approach is to take your time getting to know someone and also avoid being influenced by any sob story.
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