Your boyfriend may keep texting his ex because he hasn’t quite gotten over her.
He may still care about her, even love her.
There may honestly be a part of him that wants her back.
Perhaps she was the one that broke up the relationship.
He may not have wanted to break up.
He may have wanted to work things out with her and get through it.
He started dating you because his ex wasn’t interested in working things out.
However, he may have still hoped that one day his ex would.
He texts his ex because he wants to know if there is still hope.
If his ex responds to his texts, this encourages him.
It makes him feel relieved that his ex is still maintaining contact with him.
His ex is still in essence keeping that connection alive because she is responding.
Every time his ex responds to his text he is emboldened.
He wants to text his ex again.
He wants to keep experiencing the rush of excitement that he gets whenever she responds.
Perhaps his ex is showing him that she is still in love with him.
Perhaps his ex is showing him that there is still hope that they can get back together.
This is often what your boyfriend is going through mentally when he keeps texting his ex.
He hasn’t gotten over the relationship.
There is a part of him that still yearns for that connection with his ex.
He may be holding out hope that he will get back with his ex in the future.
You should observe his behavior whenever he is texting his ex and hearing back from her.
Does he get excited?
If you observe him getting really giddy or happy about it, this typically indicates that he still cares about his ex deeply.
This kind of emotion cannot be ignored.
If he was merely maintaining a platonic relationship with his ex, he wouldn’t get this excited.
He wouldn’t feel this rush of adrenaline.
If you notice that whenever he texts her, the conversations can go on for hours or days, he is showing that he may have never gotten over the break up.
If the relationship was merely platonic, the texts would be shorter.
However, if the text conversations are even longer than the ones he has with you, he is connecting with his ex on a deeper level than he is with you.
You may confront him about this and he denies it.
This is his natural self-defense mechanism.
As human beings, when we are accused of something, our natural inclination is to immediately deny it.
We do so without thinking. We just don’t want to look like the bad guy.
This is why he may deny that there is anything going on.
However, those are just words.
You have his actions to judge.
His actions speak a lot louder than his words.
You would have to figure out just how much more of this you can take.
You shouldn’t want to end up being the one who gets dumped because your boyfriend has reconnected with his ex.
This is not a good position to be in.
Observe your boyfriend, talk to him.
However, use his actions as your guide and not his words.
This will help you figure out if staying in this relationship and investing so much of your time and love is worth it.
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