Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

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Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Yes, they can.

However, you must be willing to make a decisive move in the relationship before things get out of hand.

In other words, you shouldn’t stay apart for too long.

When you are apart for too long, it creates resentment.

Someone will feel neglected.

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When you need that human touch or proximity to your partner, they are simply not there.

This can be very difficult to endure over a sustained period of time.

This is where so many long distance couples go wrong.

They keep making empty promises about meeting each other.

Those plans continue to fail to come to fruition and both stay unfulfilled.

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They may see each other from time to time but that is simply not enough.

If you truly want to make a long distance relationship work, you have got to be willing to ask yourself a few questions.

Are you willing to move to where your long distance partner is?

Are you willing to never become complacent with the distance?

Can you actually see yourself with this person for the long-term?

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These are all very important questions that you need to answer.

If you are willing to move, you are recognizing the importance of physical proximity in a relationship.

If you are willing to never become complacent with the distance, you are acknowledging that you will never take this relationship for granted and you will make bold steps to effect a consistent exchange of face to face meetings.

If you actually see yourself with this person for the long-term, you will be able to look beyond your current excitement and become more realistic.

You know that if you want a relationship with this person and possibly start a family in the future, you would need to have them be within your physical space.

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This allows you to take this seriously and not get so caught up in the excitement of the moment.

You will be able to have a much clearer vision and scope of where this could all lead.

There has to be a real understanding between you.

There has to be a plan in place.

A long distance relationship is hard work.

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It has to be undertaken by two people who understand the stakes.

It is essential that you talk about the future.

It is essential that you talk about what the end goal is.

Where do you see yourselves a few months or years from now?

If that future is with each other, what steps are you willing to make to ensure that you are both together in the same physical space?

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There has to be a plan.

If you were to simply go with the flow on this one, you may never have a set plan in motion.

You may never be able to make that physical meeting real because you will keep putting it off.

However, when there is a set goal in mind that you have agreed on, the future is much clearer.

There is some sense of direction.

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You have to be realistic when it comes to long distance relationships.

To make it work, you can’t stay in a long distance relationship without a plan and you cannot stay in it for too long.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.