You don’t know if he is the one by what you are merely feeling in the here and now.
There is so much more to this than that.
A person may seem like the perfect person for you at this moment only to become the complete opposite in the future.
This is the trap that many fall into.
You may believe that he is the one just because he makes you so happy and you have so much in common.
However, in reality, the both of you may simply be experiencing infatuation.
It can be a very powerful and misleading feeling.
You may believe that this means that you have something real with this person.
You may believe that indeed you have found the one. However, after a while, that infatuation starts to wane and ultimately dissipates.
The fun is gone.
You don’t want to be around this person anymore.
What on earth happened?
Well, this is simply how the game of dating and relationships work.
Being reactionary instead of prudent could lead to poor relationships.
When people simply jump into relationships because they are feeling such initial excitement over someone, they are not thinking clearly.
Many ultimately realize that they made a mistake and end the relationship or are dumped.
You can’t allow yourself to be that person.
In order to know he is the one, you will need to give your relationship time.
You will need to see him at his worst.
In other words, you will need to see him when he is having a bad day.
You will have to observe him in these moments and how he behaves.
You will need to observe how he interacts with you when he doesn’t feel his best.
These are the moments where you get to see the real person and get to understand what makes him who he is.
He also has to see you when you are not at your best either.
In other words, you have to be in this relationship long enough for the both of you to see each other at your worst.
It can be so easy to get carried away by the passion that you may be experiencing at the moment.
However, you have to stop and think about how it would be when that passion dies down.
Would you be able to be around each other?
Would the both of you still be able to get along?
How would the both of you interact with each other when that initial excitement wanes?
How would you start looking at each other and your roles in the relationship?
Would you still treat each other with respect?
These are questions that can only be answered with the passage of time.
When you are able to be around each other in the good and bad times, are able to work through them in a positive way and still want to be a part of each other’s lives, you know that he is “the one” for you.
Does that mean that there will be no roadblocks on your path to forever after?
Of course there will be.
However, due to the fact that you both gave it time before getting into anything serious, you will both be best equipped to deal with these challenging periods when they arise.
This can only make your relationship that much stronger.
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