You don’t know when he is the one by what you are merely feeling in the here and now.
There is so much more to this than that.
A person who seems like the perfect person for you at this moment, isn’t guaranteed to maintain that into the future.
This is the trap that many fall into.
You believe he is the one, owing to how he makes you so happy and how much you have in common.
In reality, the two of you are experiencing infatuation.
It is a powerful and misleading feeling.
You believe that this means that you have something real with this person and you have found the one.
After a while, that infatuation wanes and finally dissipates.
The fun is gone.
You don’t want to be around this person anymore.
What on earth happened?
Being reactionary instead of prudent leads to poor relationships.
When people jump into relationships, feeling such initial excitement over someone, they are not thinking clearly.
Many finally realize that they made a mistake and end the relationship or are dumped.
Don’t be that person.
In order to know he is the one, you need to give your relationship time.
You need to see him at his worst.
What is he like when he has a bad day?
How does he behave?
How does he treat you when he doesn’t feel his best?
This is where you see the real person and what makes him who he is.
Seeing you when you are not at your best matters too.
Don’t get carried away by the passion that you are experiencing at the moment.
Stop and think about how it is going to be when that passion dies down.
Passion dies down in every relationship.
How do you to get along when that initial excitement wanes?
Do you treat each other with respect?
Only the passage of time answers these questions.
When you are around each other in the good and bad times, positively working through any issues, you know that he is “the one” for you.
This is where you have taken off the veil of infatuation from your eyes and persisted enough to determine what this relationship is made of.
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