You have to figure out just what it is you feel confused about.
Is she not responding to your approach in a consistent and engaged manner?
Is she not communicating?
Is she not coming to the dates that you arrange?
You have to answer these questions.
If there is a lack of communication between the both of you, this is a problem.
If you have noticed that you are the one who tends to initiate conversation every single time, there may be a lack of interest on her part.
You don’t want to put yourself in the position where everything that is being done to move this process along is being done by you.
She also has to contribute to the process.
This is how the dating process works.
It takes two.
Hence, if there has been a consistent lack of communication on her part, you should actually let this girl go.
Don’t keep pushing and expending your energy where there is no interest.
It would only take away from your opportunities to talk to other girls who may actually be interested.
Why waste your time and energy on someone who gives you nothing back?
And no, it doesn’t mean that she is interested but she is just playing hard to get.
Playing hard to get doesn’t mean that you never communicate.
Playing hard to get typically means that the person is simply giving you just enough to keep you interested while also showing interest in you.
At some point, the person completely opens up and the hard-to-get game ends.
This is not what you are dealing with when you are dealing with someone who never initiates contact with you.
Now, you may also be confused because the girl may be responding but doesn’t seem to be making herself available often enough.
However, when the both of you do go out on dates, you both have a great time.
It’s important to understand that there are some girls who are very good on dates.
They can be a great date.
They will laugh and really show you a good time.
However, it doesn’t always mean that they are interested in you.
This is especially the case if you consistently find it difficult to set up another date with them.
You find yourself constantly at the receiving end of cancelled dates or no shows.
Again, there is really nothing to be confused about in a scenario like this.
If she is doing this, she is not truly interested in you.
A girl who is truly interested in you will regularly make herself available for dates and she will rarely cancel on you.
You have to really try to figure out what has been going on.
Take a look back at your experiences with this girl and ask yourself if you have been going through any of what I just described.
If you have, forget about backing off for the time being, just move on.
There is no point in expending your time and energy on someone who is either playing ridiculous games with you that will get you nowhere or is getting off making you guess about how they truly feel about you.