Come to terms with the rejection.
Yes, you want a romantic relationship with her but she has rejected you for a reason?
Your job is done and the onus is now on her to make a move on you, in the case she likes you.
That’s it.
Ignoring her doesn’t do you any good.
There is a part of you that is upset that she rejected you.
Why exactly do you think she likes you?
She did reject you.
Most girls that like a guy in a romantic sense and are available, don’t reject him.
Is this wishful thinking on your part?
You like her so much that you have convinced yourself that she does like you, even though she rejected you?
This is all stuff that you really have to come to terms with.
What are the odds she doesn’t like you, despite believing she does?
Now that you have been rejected, it doesn’t help to hold on to hope and desire.
A girl who doesn’t like you isn’t affected when she is ignored.
Being rejected is rarely painless, but we exacerbate our predicament when we cling to hope.
Right now, you are sad and hurt over the rejection.
What you need to do is come to terms with your feelings.
Were you misled?
Led to believe she liked you, then rejected unexpectedly?
None of that matters.
All that matters is that you made a move and she rejected you, and now, you have to move on.
Ignoring her is how you hold on.
You are hoping that it affects her and she changes her mind about rejecting you.
Don’t waste your time.
Ignoring her isn’t the answer.
She is not the only game in town, as there are so many more girls who are open to giving you a shot.
Unfortunately, you miss out on these girls by remaining upset over this one girl that ignored you.
Is that what you want?
Do you want to stymie your dating life over one rejection?
Surely, you have a greater regard for yourself than that.
Ask yourself about what relationship you are open to having with her going forward.
Be sincere.
There is no shame in maintaining distance for a little while, until you feel better.
When you figure it out, take action.
Upon deciding that you still want her in your life as a friend, be polite and say hello when you see her.
This is how you show class.
You have made peace with your emotions and no longer feel the need to get back at her for rejecting you by ignoring her.
This frees you up emotionally to pursue other girls and find your next romance.
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As a woman, I think it is a very bad idea to ignore her.
She can always change her mind but if you act like a jerk she’ll think “I made the right decision.”
I was friends with a guy who was friends with another girl whom he had romantic feelings for. She said she only wanted to be friends. He was a very nice guy and decided that he wanted to remain friends with her. Two years later they started dating. They have been married for 20 years now.
Hi Ashley,
What a story.
Yes, there are definitely cases like this.
Sometimes it just boils down to timing.
She was probably not ready for a guy like him at the time she told him that she just wanted to be friends.
However, after two years, she may have changed or grown as a person and realized that he was actually the right kind of guy for her.
I also decided to remain friends with a girl that rejected me as I did like her alot. I told her just don’t mention about any guys you are dating to me, as I am not ready. The next day she begin talking about some guy and if he will marry her in the future. I remindered her to not talk about other guys. And the next day she did the same again. I immediately block her and walked away. I text her I could not do this anymore as it was too painful. She begged me to remain as friends and continued to harrass me. I just cut all contact with her after that. 2 weeks later she continued to harrass me again to be friends.
Sometimes it’s better to just cut it off.