If you asked her to do anything with you, you did ask her out.
We just have to ensure that she gets the right impression.
Perhaps you feel like what you asked her to do with you or the way you went about asking her out was too ambiguous.
Perhaps, you asked her out to lunch and you feel like she may not quite understand that you were asking her out on an actual date.
When the both of you meet up for lunch, talk to her in an engaging fashion.
Ensure that you talk about her life and her interests. Do touch her from time to time as you discuss and maintain as much consistent eye contact with her as you can.
Ensure that you are really in the moment and attentive to what she has to say.
You can even introduce the topic of romance and see where she stands as far as finding a mate.
Doing all these things will give her the impression that this is an actual date and not just a platonic lunch.
When she begins to reveal more about her life, romantic past and her hopes for the future, based on what you have asked, she will get the picture.
Hence, you have made it clear that you are certainly interested in her romantically.
Now, if you asked her out but you weren’t clear with the date and time, you should ensure that you do so.
Contact her again and set a date and time for the date.
She may have been interested but because you didn’t really narrow down a meeting, she didn’t pursue the topic any further.
Girls really like guys who are assertive and go for what they want.
If you only make weak attempts to go on a date with her without ever really setting a solid date and time, this can actually turn a girl off.
You have to be assertive.
Contact her and set the date and time. Be specific of where you will meet and what you both will do.
Girls love this too.
They like it when they have some sense of what is expected so that they can dress appropriately and anticipate the date.
Also, if you think you asked her out but you are not sure because a date was set but you haven’t really spoken to her or heard from her since, you need to communicate with her.
Girls like it when a guy stays in touch in-between the time a date was set and the day of the date itself.
She will want to hear from you.
Whether you call or text, she would want some kind of communication from you.
This also makes it more real in her eyes.
She will start believing that the date wasn’t spoken of just in passing.
Being that the both of you have continued to communicate during the course of the week, she will get a stronger sense that this date is actually real.
You may even find that as the date draws near, she may be the one who even brings it up by saying something like, “I am excited about Friday.”
You respond, “And so am I.”
At this point, she knows for certain that the both of you have a date planned and set.