Your ex boyfriend may have gotten a Tinder because he wants to meet new girls.
He may be at a point in his life where he feels like he doesn’t have that many options for dates in his regular life.
He may have worn out his social circle for potential dates and as a result is facing that stark reality.
He may even be bored with that social circle and may want to branch out to see what else is out there.
He really may be doing this for a number of reasons.
He doesn’t necessarily want to find a girlfriend.
In other words, he may be looking for some kind of acknowledgment or recognition from the opposite sex at large.
Tinder is a very popular dating app that can have the effect of either boosting one’s ego or trampling it.
Based on the nature of the dating app, people simply go through profiles and choose who they want to interact with based on the person’s profile.
There isn’t much info given about the person.
There is normally the name, photo and pages that the potential match has “Liked” on Facebook.
People swipe “right” if they are interested in the person and “left” if they aren’t. It is a very impersonal and succinct way to meet people.
It’s almost like people are either window or brochure shopping and picking what items for sale that they want.
Again, if he gets a lot of swipes to the “right,” it is a vote of confidence and attraction from girls.
This is something that can seriously boost his ego and make him feel better about himself.
You will find that many exes use Tinder for this purpose.
If they have recently gotten out of a relationship and need an ego boost, they join Tinder.
It’s a way that many of them cope with a break up.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that they intend to meet a new girlfriend or boyfriend through the dating app.
Hence, if you are wondering why your ex boyfriend would get a Tinder, he may really be trying to deal with the fact that the both of you are broken up through trying to boost his sense of self-esteem.
The more attention and “right” swipes he gets from girls on Tinder, the more he feels that he is someone who is still desirable to the opposite sex.
Did you two have a difficult break up?
Were there a lot of arguments in your relationship before it ended?
If this is the case, your ex boyfriend may feel like using Tinder could be a way to get back at you as well.
He may want you to know that he uses Tinder in order to make you feel bad about all the fights. He may want you to feel like you are the one at fault for the relationship ending.
By making you aware that he is on Tinder, getting all this kind of attention from other girls, he may want to show you that you made a mistake in making him your enemy.
It’s human nature to want to hurt someone else who has hurt us.
Because they hurt us, we want to get back at them in some way.
It’s an emotional self-defense reaction to a feeling of loss, anger and hurt.
Take all these into account as you try to ascertain why your ex boyfriend got a Tinder.
He may indeed be reacting out of emotion.
It is also possible that he felt as though he never really got closure in how his relationship ended with you.
If true closure is what he needed from his previous relationship with you and he never felt that he got it, he may be acting out by getting on Tinder in order to get your attention in some way or feel like he is getting back at you.
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