A lot of guys miscalculate in not communicating consistently after a first date, and this is a woeful mistake.
It perpetuates an erroneous idea that keeping communication to a bare minimum encourages the girl to like them to a greater extent.
This isn’t true, and adopting this mentality leads to a lot of failure in dating.
When a guy adopts this behavior, he forgets that girls are naturally social creatures.
They love to communicate and socialize.
They like the emotional connection they feel when they are talking to others.
This is why women dominate social media usage from Facebook to Twitter and beyond.
When you choose to not communicate regularly after a first date, you give the girl the impression that you aren’t wholly into her.
Yes, she thinks about you more when she hasn’t heard from you in days, but it doesn’t last.
A lot of guys take this behavior too far.
The communication is so little that the initial intrigue and interest the girl had in them dissipates shortly after.
Unfortunately, by the time these guys come to their senses and contact the girl for conversation or a second date, the girl is no longer interested and has moved on.
This is why you need to communicate with her to keep her attention after a first date.
You don’t have to overdo it by calling her every hour on the hour.
This is too needy in her eyes.
Remember that she is in the early stages of getting to know you.
She hasn’t reached the level of comfort with you that warrants a constant barrage of phone calls and texts.
Moderation is best when it is this early.
This is how she knows you are legitimately interested and this is encouraging to her.
Girls love the sensation of being pursued, as it enforces the idea she is special.
Keeping her attention isn’t only about communication, but the words you use.
Don’t ignore the power of your words.
Give her compliments.
Not empty compliments.
These compliments relate to what you have been learning about her, as opposed to compliments that are primarily focused on her physical beauty.
What information have you learned about her in conversation?
She volunteers her time at the local animal shelter?
Compliment her on that and ask her about the reasoning behind her motivation.
Pinpointing certain character traits that define who she is and complimenting her on said traits makes he feel unique.
This is where she is uplifted into the space of being the only woman in your world, in her mind.
Lastly, to keep her attention after the first date, ask her for a second in short order.
Do not wait weeks before you ask her out again.
There are guys who do this, falsely believing that by keeping the girl waiting, her desire for them grows exponentially and her hunger for a second date explodes.
Don’t be this guy.
When you wait too long between dates, she believes that you are either a player or you aren’t truly interested.
This is how she dismisses you and moves on.
Ask her out for a second date soon.
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