It isn’t okay to never initiate conversation, regardless of a misguided belief that this approach makes a person come off as a greater catch.

The misconception is that the interested party is compelled to chase you when you never initiate conversation.

In doing this, you are losing out on good dating prospects who are destined to give up on you after a while.

They give up, determining that you are either not interested in them or you are playing mind games.

Either way, you lose out on someone who could have been a great boyfriend or girlfriend to you.

Persisting in doing this isn’t conducive to finding the right person for you.

You believe that if this person continues to contact you even when you never initiate conversation, and goes the distance, they are showing they are genuinely interested.

Well, they had already shown you that they were interested the multiple times prior that they tried to initiate conversation with you multiple times was good

When someone sticks it out and goes the distance with you, you take that as proof your method succeeded.

The danger of this approach when it comes to dating is that you get to feel a higher sense of importance in the relationship.

To an extent, you conclude you are above this person, given how hard they had to work to get you.

When you enter a relationship with this person, you won’t want to compromise.

Why would you?

After all, you have always been the prize that this person has sought after.

With this mindset, you find it difficult to concede to or at least consider what your partner’s needs are.

Your needs would totally trump the needs of your partner.

When a relationship begins with this kind of imbalance, it is very difficult to move forward in a healthy way.

There are further arguments in which you are reluctant to look at a problem with a democratic and judicious eye.

Everything is about meeting your own needs or having it your own way.

This is why so many people who use this method of never initiating conversation with their dates end up getting into relationships that are filled with arguments and disappointment.

You had set the tone of how things were going to be before the relationship began.

Now that you are in a relationship, that imbalance becomes more evident and dangerous.

The power dynamics in the relationship are imbalanced.

Your partner has a degree of inferiority that leads them to habitually acquiesce to what you want.

A relationship cannot grow healthily and successfully when one partner is forever giving, having gotten used to doing this prior to getting into a serious relationship with you.

This invites failed relationship after failed relationship in your future.

I don’t believe this is what you want.

Initiate conversation as you are dating someone or getting to know them.

This bodes so much better for you if you end up being in a relationship with this person.