If He Is So Into Me, Why Isn’t He Talkative?

If He Is So Into Me, Why Isn't He Talkative?

He is not talkative, considering he is working on getting used to you.

Being in a new relationship with him, he requires more time to gauge your personality and get more comfortable around you.

Some people are relatively quiet when they are in the beginning stages of getting to know someone or beginning stages of a relationship.

They fear saying the wrong thing in saying too much too soon.

They would rather spend some more time getting to know you or getting used to you before deciding to be more extemporaneous and open with their conversation.

A guy like this isn’t entirely certain about what topics are safe to talk about.

He doesn’t want to jeopardize the relationship in any way by saying something that turns you off.

This is a guy that hasn’t had too many relationships in the past or is exceedingly cautious when he is in one.

He wants you to lead by example by doing most of the talking so as to get him acclimated to what you are apt to talk about.

Every time you talk about that topic, he establishes a stronger familiarity with it.

He goes off on his own to learn further about it.

As time goes on, he gets more confident in the topics you have a propensity to bring up, given that these topics are now predictable.

He now knows what would be safe to talk about in your presence.

At this point, he gets talkative, knowing what topics to bring up.

Something else to reflect on is the probability he is not as into you as you think or believe.

I know that you have the impression that he is, but this isn’t a given.

You have read too much into his body language or what people have told you.

Your own desire to be with this guy has clouded the reality of your situation.

If he hasn’t asked you out on a proper date, he isn’t as into you as you believe he is.

The same goes for when he rarely initiates contact, never talks about you to his friends or colleagues, and rarely makes himself available for conversations.

You have to be frank with yourself with the reality of your situation versus what you are hoping for.

Those two are completely different.

Now, if you do believe that he is into you and have irrefutable proof of this, the best panacea for your situation is to be patient with him and let him to get used to you.

At that stage, there are greater odds he becomes talkative.


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