The first date is about getting to know each other better to see whether there is chemistry.
It’s best to do this when you are in a relaxed environment that is conducive to conversation.
When a guy really likes a girl, he sometimes goes overboard on a first date.
He wants to impress her and chooses to overdo it by taking a girl to do an activity that isn’t all that conducive to conversation.
He chooses to take her to a concert or a live sports event on a first date, believing that this is bound to impress her and make her think highly of him.
These are environments that are too busy and hectic to have free-flowing meaningful conversations in.
This ruins the first date.
In lieu of impressing the girl, she is irritated.
Having to constantly raise her voice for you to hear her over the loudness of a concert or live sports event is exhausting.
Before you know, she mentally tunes out of the date and can’t wait for it to be over.
This isn’t a good impression to leave on a girl on a first date.
Rather than going overboard to impress her with something showy for a first date, think about an environment that is conducive to conversation.
A place like a coffee shop is a great choice for a first date.
This is an environment that is laidback and comfortable.
Unlike a concert or live sports game, it is quiet and uncongested.
Unlike an expensive dinner where you are stuck with each other for a few hours, a coffee shop provides a quick and easy exit if you don’t get along with each other.
A coffee shop, or a place like it, is the best place for a first date.
The ambience, quiet, comfort, and easy exit is ideal.
All of this being said, not every girl likes coffee.
In which case, be flexible.
A girl that doesn’t like coffee likes something else.
Be flexible enough to work with her on this.
Besides a coffee shop, there are tea, smoothie, frozen yogurt, ice cream, juice, and pastry stores that provide the same ambience, decongestion, and conversation-friendly environments.
Be open to making a change from coffee if necessary, but remember to keep the theme of the first date all about ambience and conversation, as opposed to spectacle.
If you aren’t all that into being indoors on a first date, there are outdoor places that are conducive to conversation, without the spectacle of a rowdy concert or live sports game.
A public park for instance, provides an environment that is safe, ambient, and conducive to conversation.
Usually, as long as you aren’t in a public park during a special event, it is normally quiet and uncongested.
Here, you are capable of having a conversation with her that is unobstructed, while having the benefit of being outdoors and surrounded by beautiful nature.
Just like a coffee shop, if you don’t get along with each other, it’s easy to exit the date and go your separate ways too.