It was wrong that you ghosted him.

Think about the shoe being on the other foot.

No one likes it when they are ghosted.

That said, when you meet a guy that has romantic potential, you mustn’t get lost in how good he makes you feel, or the butterflies he gives you at the start.

Getting caught up on the initial feelings that a guy is giving you results in too much presumption, which increases the risk that you ghost a guy at the end of it all.

Overexcitement for a guy, based on the butterflies he gives you early on, and assuming that this must mean that he checks all the boxes for what you are looking for in a romantic partner, is where you falter greatly.

The proper approach is to be patient when you are getting to know a guy.

Instead of quickly diving headfirst into a courtship, where a guy is taking you out on dates, engage in substantive conversations with him first over a sufficient amount of time.

Ask the right questions in these conversations such as what his long-term goals are, what qualities he values most in a potential partner, what his boundaries and deal breakers are, etc.

These are questions that give you insightful information on him, making it easier for you to figure out whether he meets what you are looking for in a serious partner.

These are questions that clue you in on whether you are in alignment with him.

Forming a pattern of doing this before allowing a guy to go all out to court you, saves you from ending up ghosting more guys in the future.

The moment you realize that you aren’t in alignment, politely stop the conversations you have been having with him and tell him that you aren’t feeling a romantic connection.

It is far easier to do this early, before any real courtship has commenced, and saving him from developing feelings for you.

When you practice this restraint, and put a greater emphasis on having thought-provoking conversations in the early stages, you don’t put yourself in a bind.

You are in a bind when you have spent several weeks letting a guy romance you by taking you out on dates, only to realize that you are no longer feeling a romantic connection.

With this much time spent wooing you, it’s so awkward to tell him that you are no longer feeling a romantic connection.

This is how you inadvertently get into a bind, and next thing you know, you are asking yourself about whether it was wrong to ghost the guy.

It never has to get this far.

Avoid getting caught up on the immediate butterflies you feel when you initially meet a handsome guy that is showing an interest in you.

Keep a clear head and be patient.

Instead of going out on dates in the early stages of getting to know a guy, have insightful conversations with him that are designed to delve deeper into who he is as a person.

It is while you are having these conversations that you learn whether you are in alignment with him, and this is when you know whether it is worth it to go on dates with him.

All of this keeps you from ghosting more guys in the future.