A guy that says he thinks about you a lot is gauging whether you are romantically interested in him.
He doesn’t know how you feel about him.
What you say back to him, or how you physically react, is what he uses to gauge whether you are romantically interested in him.
This is a guy that is romantically interested in you.
He doesn’t want to be too forthright about how he feels about you, until he gets a good idea on how you feel about him.
He is looking for clues as to what you are feeling or thinking about him.
His past interactions with you haven’t given him a clear signal on how you feel about him.
In the past, he has dropped a few hints of romantic interest that you didn’t respond to.
At this moment, he wants to get a better understanding of where you stand as far as romantic interest in him is concerned.
He is reluctant to make a definitive move in asking you out, unless he is certain that you are romantically interested in him too.
In the event you haven’t thought about whether you are interested in him or not, he wants to put the thought of romance with him at the forefront of your thoughts.
The hope is that in getting you to think about him romantically, he gets you to like him.
Somewhere along this journey, he has gotten the impression that you would be open to pursuing a romance with him.
Part of the trick in getting you to wholly embrace the idea of liking him, is to make you ponder whether he likes you.
This being said, a guy like this isn’t looking to date you in every instance.
There are those who are interested in pursuing romance, and those who are purely seeking an ego boost.
This is especially true if you know that this guy has a reputation for being a player or flirtatiously talking to a lot of girls.
Oftentimes, a guy like this wants to keep a girl on the hook with the sole purpose of getting an ego boost.
He knows that in saying that he thinks about the girl a lot, he makes her ponder whether the guy likes her.
This creates the effect of making the girl think about the guy more.
Ergo, this puts her on the spot, enticing her into thinking about what it would be like to date the guy.
As she keeps wondering why he said that he thinks about her a lot, she gets lost in it.
Her mind is preoccupied with thoughts of him.
At this stage, he has the upper hand.
A guy who uses this tactic to get a girl to like him has a tendency to play mind games with girls.
He isn’t looking to date.
Keeping her in this state of confusion is nothing but an ego boost for him.
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