In order to stop overthinking, you have to stop creating scenarios in your mind of where you think you are or where you think you are going in a relationship or with someone you desire.
Your problem is that your mind is taking you to way too many places at any given time.
You are allowing your thoughts to get the best of you.
The thoughts may have been triggered by something this other person said or did.
You can’t allow those thoughts to get the best of you.
Your task is to monitor your mind and where it is leading you.
If it has began to create stories and scenarios that do not exist, make a conscious decision to bring yourself back to your present moment.
One of the biggest reasons why you overthink is due to insecurity.
You are insecure about something and it makes you react.
You begin to allow your thoughts to take you to those insecure places in your mind.
You let your mind determine how you feel about the issue instead of being the one who takes control of your mind.
Whatever it is that you are insecure about, you will have to get over it.
If you are worried that you could never be a good partner, you have to start placing value in yourself.
If you worry that this other person is not feeling for you what you feel for them, you will have to understand that relationships are a two way street.
This other person cannot be forced to feel something that they don’t.
You shouldn’t even want that.
They should want to be with you willingly and for the right reasons.
If they don’t feel that way, you shouldn’t force the issue.
You would only be putting yourself in a situation where the relationship is forced and unloving.
You lose in the end.
Hence, your insecurities have to be dealt with.
Start valuing yourself as a person so that you realize that even if things don’t work out with this person, you will be alright because you care for and value yourself.
Understand that this is a quality that someone else may find attractive in you and may want you for that.
Another major reason why you may overthink is because you are craving something that you don’t have. You are placing too much value in this object of desire.
This is very destructive to you and the direction that you should be going in life.
When you place too much value in what you don’t have and crave it, you make it become the best thing there is.
It actually may not be.
You need to start coming to terms with the possibility that what you so crave may not be the best thing for you.
Whoever it is that you are craving at the moment may be the antithesis of what you want.
You may discover selfishness and deceit. You may discover an anger issue that you never saw before.
You may discover a bitterness and an unruliness that you didn’t know existed in this person.
In other words, this person that you so desire may not live up to the expectations that you have placed on them.
When you overthink, you tend to overlook this very possible reality.
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