There are guys who regularly message you, but never end up asking you out on an official date.

The intent behind the regular messaging has to do with figuring you out.

He wants to ascertain whether there is romantic chemistry, or whether he is getting a platonic vibe.

Basically, he is holding back.

This means that you haven’t had that mind-blowing effect on him yet.

You didn’t grab his initial attention.

Without this impression, he doesn’t ask you out right away.

There is no excitement to ask you out.

Oftentimes, if he has been messaging you regularly for a while now, but hasn’t asked you out yet, he is talking to a number of girls.

Since he doesn’t know whether you are a good prospect for a date, he wants to keep his dating options open.

You haven’t blown him away, nor given him the impression that there are stakes.

To put it succinctly, he doesn’t feel as though there is any hurry in asking you out.

There is no fear that a different guy out there is going to ask you out first, and as a consequence, he loses out on you.

In normal circumstances, a guy shouldn’t be taking him this long to figure out whether he wants to ask you out or not.

A guy who has been messaging you regularly, gathers sufficient information about you and your personality.

This information gives him more than enough insight to determine whether you are someone he wants to ask out.

Time is your metric.

The longer he waits, but continues to message you regularly, the less likely he is going to come around and ask you out.

As I mentioned earlier, he doesn’t feel like there are any stakes.

He isn’t worried about losing you to a different guy during this process.

When a guy isn’t worried about this, he doesn’t look at you as a romantic interest that he wants to ask out.

There are exceptions in this situation.

If he is an immensely shy guy that messages you regularly, he wants to ask you out but doesn’t have the courage to.

Shy guys are like this when they are so nervous about how a girl responds if they were to ask her out.

As a shy guy, he is terrified of being turned down by you.

Doubly, he is fearful of changing the dynamics of his relationship with you for the worse, if he was to ask you out and you turned him down.

His strategy is to keep messaging you regularly in the hopes that you either ask him out, or make it abundantly clear to him that you want him to ask you out.

If you know that the guy that has been regularly messaging you is shy by nature, this is a reason why he is yet to ask you out.

To coax him into asking you out, you have to make it abundantly clear that you like him.

But there are no guarantees.

When it comes to a shy guy, taking the guesswork out of it by asking him out yourself, is your surest bet.