A girlfriend that isn’t spending more time with you is bored with the relationship, and has felt like this for a while.
The activities that you have been partaking in with her have become monotonous.
You have been oblivious to this, and this is nothing new in relationships.
People get comfortable when they settle into a relationship for an extended period of time.
She can only take so much of this before she gets bored.
Suddenly, she isn’t spending as much time with you as she used to.
This is when you become the one who is constantly trying to get her to spend more time with you, instead of the other way around.
She is bored with you.
To break this boredom, engage in new activities with her.
Show her something new.
Have a totally different experience together.
Do one new activity with her each week.
By doing this, she looks forward to spending time with you because she doesn’t know what to expect.
She is excited about what activity she is going to be doing with you on any given week, being that you consistently arrange a new activity each and every week.
Soon, you no longer have to convince her to spend more time with you.
In lieu of this, she is asking you about what new activity you have planned for the week.
Meanwhile, keep the spark going by continuously giving her new information about yourself.
This means that you aren’t regurgitating information you have told her about yourself in previous conversations.
Tell her at least one new story about yourself each week.
The idea here is to keep her constantly interested in getting to know more about you.
If you keep regurgitating information about yourself, she eventually thinks that there is nothing more to learn about you, and this is a recipe for boredom.
A girl remains intrigued in a guy when she believes there are multiple layers to him that are yet to be discovered.
When she has an impression that you have shown all of your cards as far as who you are as a person, she has no motivation to spend more time with you.
Never get complacent in a relationship.
A relationship is work.
A constant injection of new activities and new information keeps a girlfriend wanting to spend more time with you.
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