Does his reasoning really matter?

At the crux of it all is that he is on a dating app while he is in an exclusive relationship with you.

That is unacceptable, regardless of his reasoning for doing it.

Okay, that said, lets study the reason he gave you for being on dating apps.

He told you that it is just to look.

Why wouldn’t this make the alarm bells fire off in your brain?

Just to look?

He wants to look at the profiles of beautiful women, many of whom have photos of themselves scantily clad.

Does this sound like it wouldn’t be a problem?

Of course it is.

By looking at beautiful women on dating apps, he is opening himself up to temptation.

The temptation to swipe right on a beautiful woman’s dating profile.

What makes you think that he has the capacity to control himself as he is browsing through their profiles fixated on their beauty and alluring body parts?

Do you know him to be a man in control?

How often has he lost his temper with you and said something to you that wasn’t kind?

At least a few times I’ll bet.

With this in mind, what makes you think he has the capacity to keep himself from swiping right on a woman’s dating profile, liking her photo, or sending her a text message?

It is not about whether he does, it’s about when.

Sure, he might try to compose himself and avoid trying to do any of this initially.

But, it is but a matter of time before his defensive posture crumbles.

As long as he is consistently logging into dating apps, he is bound to eventually give in.

All of a sudden, it isn’t just about taking a look.

He has become obsessed with a particular girl, as her photos have beguiled his imagination.

The effect is so profound, he thinks about her when he is doing his day to day tasks.

Basically, he doesn’t have to be logged into a dating app to think about her.

He is thinking about her while he is at work, at the gym, in church, at the fast food restaurant, as he is cuddling with you on a lazy Sunday evening, and so on.

Alarmingly, he can’t get her out of his mind.

He is so consumed with thoughts of her throughout his day that he is logging into a dating app to look at her profile when he should be working or doing other activities.

He wants to see whether she has updated her photos or said anything new about herself in her bio.

She is so stunningly gorgeous that he compares her to the women he sees in his dreams.

You, on the other hand, cannot compare.

Not with this woman.

This woman matches the looks of the women he sees in his dreams, which means you are not anywhere near her league.

Before long, he is swiping right on her profile, liking a photo, sending an icebreaker message, or initiating an original message.

He does all of this behind your back, while pretending that any time you so happen to walk by him as he is using a dating app, he is solely there to look.

You have no idea that he has opened a line of communication with this woman, who is the manifestation of the women he sees in his dreams.

Soon, it’s not only her looks that he is consumed by, he develops an emotional connection for her too.

He continues to write the story of what her life must be like in his head, and this is without having exchanged a single message with her.

It’s merely a matter of time before he becomes so emotionally invested in her, he is no longer capable of loving you.

There is no space for loving you in his mind.

His mind has been completely hijacked by this woman.

Once it has gone this far, you have lost him.

Needless to say, you mustn’t allow him to be on dating apps while he is in an exclusive relationship with you.

He either adheres to this, or you let him go, saving yourself the heartache of what’s coming.