Men aren’t adept at processing their emotions at the time a courtship or relationship ends.

Instead, he looks to date new women.

He thinks that all he requires is to date someone new and never have to deal with the emotional repercussions of losing out on you.

That changes when those dating ventures don’t work out.

He dates a new woman that doesn’t match up to you.

Eventually, he struggles with keeping his emotions suppressed in reference to his past experience with you.

He thinks about how much fun he had with you and is more inclined to focus on those good times than anything else.

He isn’t dwelling on what led to the end of the relationship with you.

Rather than thinking about those problems, he is thinking about the dates he went out on with you.

Your laughter, smile, and how you made him feel like your protector.

Now that his time dating new women hasn’t borne much fruit, you are suddenly in his mind.

Not surprisingly, he is thinking about reaching out.

The next thing you know, he is sending you a text message, a DM, or calling you outright, out of nowhere.

It’s been months or years, and there he is, aiming to get into a conversation with you.

Men are prone to ignore their emotions.

They weren’t raised to contend with them, but to brush them aside in the name of so-called masculinity.

This is why he buries his emotions and goes about finding someone new when a relationship ends.

This is never the right solution, given that these emotions almost always come back to the surface.

He starts missing you once he realizes that every girl he has dated since, doesn’t match up to you.

He wants to get back to how it was when he was with you, while pretending that it never ended badly.

That’s the part he doesn’t want to acknowledge.

Even upon attempting to reconnect with you, he doesn’t want to deal with the reasons why the relationship didn’t work out in the first place.

He wants to focus on the good parts of his past with you, so that he feels good.

Be careful.

A guy like this won’t address the issues that led to the end of his relationship with you upon reconnecting with you, unless you bring it up.

Remember, he hasn’t spent the last several months or years since the two of you parted ways working on improving himself as a person and potential partner.

He has filled that period of time with women he has been taking out on dates, hoping to forget about you and move on.

That didn’t work out, and now he is texting or calling you out of nowhere.

Before even thinking about taking him back or reestablishing a connection with him, there has to be a conversation about the issues.

Keep in mind, if it was left to him, he won’t bring it up.

All he cares about is getting back to what made him feel so good about you when he was dating you in the past.

If you don’t address the issues, but choose to take him back, the same problems are bound to occur all over again, making his return to you a complete waste of your time and energy.