Avoiding the likelihood that you offend him comes down to the timing and the manner in which you ask him.

Asking him about getting tested for STDs in a moment where you are making out like animals in heat isn’t good timing.

He is stuck in the moment and isn’t thinking rationally.

Unfortunately, it is much harder for him to see the sensibility of your request in a moment where he is filled with sex hormones, such as dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin, and was expecting to have sex as a consequence of making out with you so feverishly.

All he can think about in a moment like this is to have sex with you.

Telling him that you want him to get tested for STDs before having sex with him is interpreted as you playing games with him.

And now that he knows sex is out of the question, he gets into a foul mood.

Timing is crucial.

There is much less of a chance you offend or upset him if you ask him about getting tested for STDs when you aren’t feverishly making out with him.

Lay this out beforehand.

This way, you don’t put yourself in a position where he is so upset that you ruined the moment, he barrels out of your apartment in annoyance, thinking you are a tease.

Clearly, you are worried about turning him off or offending him in asking him to get tested for STDs before sex.

But, wanting a guy you are newly dating to get tested for STDs before sex should never be a point of contention.

It is the sensible thing to do with a brand new partner.

There is nothing wrong with it.

The sooner you ask him to do it, the better.

Your sexual health comes first.

To make him see that you are serious about this, and fair, tell him that you will go with him to get tested alongside him.

You are new partners, and it is only fair that you get tested for STDs together.

It keeps the process transparent.

When you ask him to get tested for STDs before sex, don’t infer that you are worried that he has a bunch of STDs.

You run the risk of offending him when you do it like this.

Watch your words carefully.

Even if you suspect that he has had a past filled with girlfriends and sexual partners, don’t mention that as you ask him to get tested for STDs.

Inferring that he has a promiscuous past is liable to get him so stuck on what you are insinuating, he fails to see the validity of your request.

This is why you must have a matter of fact or businesslike approach to how you go about asking him to get tested for STDs.

Upon making this request, the choice is his.

Remember, never feel guilty or self-conscious about asking a new partner to get tested for STDs before sex.

It is the sensible thing to do.