Finally, you were moving on from her.
It wasn’t easy.
It took months for you to get over the rejection.
You were too caught up on this girl, believing she was your perfect match.
Although you went out on multiple dates with her, it was all for naught.
She ended up telling you that she only sees you as a friend.
Though she was apologetic, it didn’t make you feel any better.
You were deeply hurt, and cut her off.
You went no contact.
It has been months.
You thought you were moving on from her.
All of a sudden, she sends you a birthday package.
She put some thought into it too, sending you a card and a small gift.
This instantly brought her back into memory, leaving you more upset than happy.
It has been months since you spoke to each other, and out of nowhere, she sends you a birthday package.
On a day where you should have been celebrating your birthday, you were stuck on thinking about her.
She wasn’t far from your thoughts throughout your special day.
Friends and family called to congratulate you, but it did little to take your mind off of her birthday package to you.
You are at a loss of what to do, but you know you don’t want to go through this again.
You don’t want to hope that this birthday package means that she has changed her mind about you.
Unfortunately, your mind has already gone there.
You don’t want to hope.
Yet, you have found yourself hoping.
You had feelings for her and went out with her for months, hoping that the dates would eventually lead to romance and a relationship.
It never happened.
With that much emotional investment in her, it makes sense that you have had a tough time moving on.
Now you are struggling to keep yourself from believing that this birthday package means that she has changed her mind about you and wants you in her life as a romantic interest.
Your instincts are right.
This birthday package in nowhere indicates that she has changed her mind about you and wants you in her life as a romantic partner.
She would have to do a lot more than send you a birthday package to prove that she has changed her mind about you.
This is why you mustn’t get carried away about this birthday package.
For now, it’s best to look at this birthday package as her way of reconnecting.
No, this doesn’t mean that she wants you to be her boyfriend.
It’s been several months of no contact and this was a girl you took out on multiple dates.
With this history, she felt compelled to send you a birthday package.
She is a little lonely right now.
In sending you a birthday package, she is hoping to get acknowledgment from you, which in turn, makes her feel better about being a little lonely right now.
She is hoping that you message her, letting her know you were happy with the birthday package.
Keep putting in the work on yourself to overcome the emotional fallout of your failed courtship of her.
It’s a good idea to give away the birthday package or trash it.
Without doing this, you are susceptible to being reminded of her whenever you see it.
This is what she is hoping for.
She wants you to think of her every time you see the birthday package.
Don’t fall for it.
Give it away or trash it.
She has to do substantially more than send you a birthday package to prove that she wants you in her life romantically.
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