Although she told you that she wanted to be friends, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like knowing that you are romantically interested in her.
As human beings, we are flattered when we know someone else thinks we are attractive and wants to date us.
It makes us feel desirable.
Depending on what is going on in her life at the moment or her tastes, she had her reasons for telling you that she wanted to be friends.
She is grappling with the emotional repercussions of a previous relationship, and as a result, isn’t ready to date anyone seriously at this time.
Or, she isn’t attracted to you.
You weren’t her type.
Regardless of her reasoning, she got an ego boost from learning that you were interested in her romantically.
Who knows when last she received an ego boost like this?
She liked the feeling and wanted it to last.
When she sees you dating other girls, it cheapens the ego boost.
It gives her the perception that she mustn’t have been that attractive to you, considering how you quickly moved on to dating other girls.
She likes feeling desired and the speed of you turning to dating these other girls has killed that feeling.
It has been a while since she got an ego boost, whether she is getting over an ex or didn’t think you were her type.
As a consequence, she gets jealous when she sees you dating other girls.
She wanted to ride the high of the ego boost for a while, and by dating other girls, you have taken that high away from her.
Yes, it seems strange.
If she wants to be friends, why would she care that you are dating other girls?
The thing is, she is human.
Being human, she wants to maintain the ego boost she gets from learning that someone is attracted to her and wants to date her, especially when there is no lover in her life.
A lover in her life would be a constant ego boost, but in the absence of one, she is left to ride the high she felt when you told her you were romantically interested in her.
Her jealousy isn’t due to a change of mind.
She doesn’t regret telling you that she wants to be friends.
Her issue is the loss of the high she felt when you told her about your attraction for her.
In a minority of cases, a girl tells a guy that she wants to be friends, worried about the guy’s reputation as a player.
She doesn’t want to get into a situation where she dates a player and gets hurt when the player cheats on her.
Ergo, she tells the guy that she wants to be friends so as to maintain a platonic relationship with him, where she has the added benefit of observing his behavior.
She is hoping that she sees a change in him as time goes on that makes her feel that he is worth taking a risk in dating.
Are you a player?
If you are, it’s probable she is attracted to you but told you that she wants to be friends to protect herself, hoping to remain in your life as a platonic friend until she gets a better idea of whether you are someone she can trust.
When she sees you dating other girls, she gets jealous, knowing that her fears of disloyalty in dating a guy who is a player are being realized in how you are so quick to move on to dating other girls.
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