Lots of guys respect it when a girl says she is saving herself for marriage.
He doesn’t instantly write you off on account of this.
That being said, there are guys who are snakes.
The last thing you want is to cave to pressure from a guy to please him.
Any guy who has an issue with you saving yourself for marriage and tries to convince you otherwise, is a guy to avoid.
He is up to no good.
He is selfishly thinking about himself.
That isn’t a person you want to associate with.
Your intentions are clear.
You want to save yourself for marriage, and you didn’t come to this decision lightly.
For a guy to hear it and proceed to convince you otherwise speaks to his lack of respect for you and your decision.
There is nothing wrong with saving yourself for marriage.
That is a personal decision that you have made for your personal reasons.
You don’t need to explain your reasoning to any guy.
The truth is, you are better off not doing that at all.
When a guy goads you into explaining why, the idea is to get you to doubt your decision as he pokes holes at it.
Why put yourself in this position?
It isn’t worth it.
No matter how harmless the request sounds, you shouldn’t feel the need to explain your reasoning why you want to save yourself for marriage.
It’s your body.
That means it’s your decision.
Beware of guys who act as though they respect your decision in the beginning, who end up trying to get you to sleep with them.
Yes, this happens too.
There are guys who act as though they respect your decision but have every intention of getting you to sleep with them.
If anything, it becomes more of a challenge when you tell him that you are saving yourself for marriage.
He realizes that you are a conquest to him and getting you to sleep with him before marriage would be like a badge of honor on his chest.
He takes it further by telling his friends that you are saving yourself for marriage and he has every intention of getting you to change your mind beforehand.
He is intent on winning the trophy of getting you to sleep with him before marriage.
This guy is dangerous.
Clearly, he doesn’t care for your decision.
He is now looking at you as a conquest, not a human being.
A guy like this is very sleek in how he hides his intentions.
This is why you need to be cognizant of what to look for early on.
He normally gives himself away when he love bombs you too soon.
He is giving you flowers, taking you on vacations, and giving you gifts too prematurely.
This is done so quickly, it feels undeserved.
This is when you must listen to your instincts, instead of getting caught up in all the love bombing.
This is how he breaks down your defenses, warming you up to him emotionally, and getting you to let your guard down.
Once he knows your guard is down, he moves in for the kill.
He entices you to go further than kissing or touching.
He asks you to do something more explicit.
He keeps moving you closer and closer to outright sex.
You don’t realize this is happening until it is too late.
If you refuse to give him sex at this point, he gets mad and takes the attention away.
That includes all the love bombing.
Unfortunately, by now, you are already emotionally hooked and find yourself begging him to come back to you.
He comes back on one condition.
That you have sex with him.
You are so distraught in losing his adulation and attention, you give in by giving him sex.
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