It happens more than you know.

Not everyone is thrilled when they are introduced to a boyfriend of their sibling, parent or friend.

A boyfriend who quickly gets on their last nerve.

Every fiber in your being wants to scream and yell at the top of your lungs whenever this person is around, but you bite your tongue.

You don’t want to hurt the family member or friend you are close to.

After all, the person you are close to clearly cares about this partner, or worse, is smitten with him.

This leaves you with a dilemma.

What to do about this situation.

You know that it is just a matter of time before something is let out.

You say something that you live to regret.

Losing control is a realistic worry.

Just recently, you were talking to the person you are close to and got extremely close to saying something about her boyfriend that would have caused offence.

It’s getting closer and closer.

You can feel it.

Eventually, you won’t have the self-discipline to hold it back.

Once you say what is on your mind, you fear that your relationship with this family member or friend will be severely affected.

You don’t want this.

Take a moment.

Ask yourself why you hate this person.

Sometimes, we hate someone based on who we think the person is.

Yet, we are making an assessment on the person with very few cues.

Just because he said something some time ago that sounded like he is a jerk, doesn’t mean he is a jerk.

People have good and bad days.

Consider yourself.

Yes, you.

Have you had days where you have behaved or said something that wasn’t reflective of who you are as a person?

You have, and you know it.

Imagine if somebody were to assess your entire character based on what they witnessed from you on a singular day that you were in a bad mood or stressed?

It wouldn’t be fair would it?

That isn’t who you are.

It so happened to be a bad moment for you and the last thing you want is for people to judge you based on that one incident.

Could this be what you are doing when it comes to the boyfriend of this person that is close to you?

Did you happen to see or observe this boyfriend on a bad day and judge his entire character based on it?

On top of this, think about the dating history of this family member or friend.

Do they have a history of dating men with good character?

If so, they obviously see good elements to this boyfriend that you either aren’t privy to or choosing not to see, being so blinded by the negative first impression you had of him.

Take a moment to check yourself.

Be sure you aren’t hating on this person based on what they said or did on a bad day.

Remember, we all have bad days.