You want your partner to include a picture of you two on his phone screen.
You do the same with your own phone screen.
The idea that every time he uses his phone, he sees your image alongside his, makes you feel loved and accepted as his partner.
You want others to see it too when he is out and about.
That is something that means a lot to you.
It makes you believe that he only has eyes for you and has no qualms letting the world know about it.
You don’t believe that wanting him to include a picture of you two on his phone screen is too crazy or needy of a request.
You have girlfriends who demand much more from their boyfriends.
And yes, several of their boyfriends have phone screens that have pictures of them alongside their girlfriends.
You want the same thing, and to be frank, your girlfriends have asked you about this.
Being that their phone screens and those of their partners have pictures of this nature, they are curious as to why your partner doesn’t include a picture of you two on his phone screen.
There is pressure on two fronts.
One front has you wanting this to make you feel loved and accepted, the other, has you wanting it out of peer pressure.
Wanting your partner to include a picture of you two on his phone screen speaks to your love language, but it doesn’t speak to that of your partner.
His love language isn’t showy at all.
In addition to not including a picture of you two on his phone screen, he doesn’t show you off on his social media either.
This isn’t who he is.
Either come to terms with this or reconsider the viability of your relationship.
This is a guy you consciously chose to get into an exclusive relationship with, knowing full well that he wasn’t publicly showy with his love.
Yet, you still chose to get into an exclusive relationship with him.
To suddenly expect him to transform into someone he isn’t is selfish of you.
Your love language is expressive and his isn’t.
He expresses his love in other ways.
When he takes you out on regular dates and pays for everything, for instance.
To him, this is just one of the ways he shows you that you are special to him and that he cares about you.
Although, you love being taken out on these dates, you want more out of him.
You are now making demands of him that you never did when you two were in the early stages of your relationship.
Be careful that you don’t make this relationship all about you.
This is a blunder many women make when they get further into a relationship.
They hope to change their partner by demanding more of something they already knew their partner was deficient in before they got into an exclusive relationship with said partner.
Think carefully about this.
What matters most to you?
That he expresses his love for you with generous deeds or that he does it superficially, by having a photo of you two on his phone screen.
Unlike you, he is a private guy.
As long as his actions are showing you that he loves and cares for you, that should be enough for you.
Does he introduce you as his girlfriend?
These are the people that matter most to him.
Introducing you to them as his girlfriend should be enough for you to know that he sees you as his serious girlfriend.
A picture of you two on his phone screen isn’t that proof.
It’s superficial and redundant.
If you are completely adamant that he must have a picture of you two on his phone screen, ask yourself about whether this desire is coming from an innate place of insecurity within you.
Why do you believe that having a visual representation of your relationship included on his phone screen matters more than the actions he takes to show you that he loves and cares for you?
Sometimes, this comes from a fear of abandonment.
A fear that in not having a visual representation of your relationship, your partner is destined to leave you.
A picture of you two on his phone screen has no bearing on whether he is destined to leave you or not.
How well you two work as a unit to keep your relationship fresh, communicative and trusting, is what determines whether he is destined to leave you or not.
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