It is best to get the fact that you cheated off your chest now and face the consequences than taking the risk of your boyfriend finding out on his own.
I know that it is hard to come to terms with doing something this risky.
However, by not doing it, you will have to carry this burden and knowledge with you in your relationship.
That can be very difficult to do especially as your feelings for your boyfriend get stronger and stronger over time.
Telling your boyfriend that you cheated is not just about coming clean.
It is also about coming clean to yourself.
Doing this enables you to face what you did head on and deal with it.
When you stay quiet about it, you are still wrestling with it and there is a risk that you may even do it again.
It’s like people who keep denying that they have an alcohol problem.
The more they deny it, the more they do nothing about it.
They are basically brushing it under the rug and acting like it doesn’t exist.
As a result, their alcoholism gets worse until it reaches the point where they have no choice but to admit that it is a problem.
By that point, it may be too late or it has become that more difficult to overcome it.
If they had addressed it earlier on, it would have been a lot easier for them to deal with it and try to overcome it.
This is not the person that you want to be.
The sooner you tell your boyfriend that you cheated, the sooner you can work on healing yourself.
You may be afraid that the relationship will end if you were to tell him that you cheated.
However, you can’t allow yourself to dwell on that fear.
It will paralyze you from taking action.
The truth is that you don’t know how your boyfriend is going to take this.
You really don’t.
Yes, he will most likely feel hurt but it doesn’t mean that the hurt will lead to the dissolution of your relationship with him.
Your focus has to first and foremost be on getting this out in the open so that you can both begin the process of dealing with this.
As I mentioned earlier, it would be a lot worse if your boyfriend were to find out that you cheated from someone else.
It would be a lot harder for him to handle it if he were to find out in this way.
There is a chance that he could find out from someone else at some point in time if you don’t act now by telling him yourself.
He may be upset at first but in time he may take into account that you did tell him and he didn’t find out from some other source.
Again, the sooner you do this, the better.
Focus on what must be done and not on what the repercussions will be.
You have no real control over that.
All you have control over is in telling him.
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