To comfort your boyfriend when he cries, simply be there for him if that is what he wants from you.
Avoid doing anything profound in order to put him in a better mood.
This is the big mistake that many girls make with guys.
You don’t have to say anything or do anything particularly generous while your boyfriend is in this state.
Be there for him, as a person he knows that he can count on when he wants to talk about it.
Never force him to tell you what is bothering him.
When he is crying, he is in the moment.
A lot of guys find it difficult to truly express themselves when they get emotional.
They don’t want to say anything, and simply want you to be there and be silent.
In talking to you about it, they want you to listen without saying much.
Only if he were to ask you about your opinion should you give it.
This is when he is reaching out to you and making himself deal with this problem.
He is using your support to help him get through this very difficult moment.
When he asks for your opinion about something and you give it, keep it short.
Don’t talk for too long.
Give him your candid opinion about what he is asking.
Making it long-winded, makes you susceptible to saying something that upsets him exponentially.
The less words the better.
If he asks you to elaborate, do so.
Only do so should he ask you to.
Remember that above all else you must be honest, as this is what he needs at this time.
He needs someone who is honest with him about their opinion.
Telling him something that you think he would want to hear with the intent of making him feel better, doesn’t help him, being that he would pick up on this.
Most likely, his first thought is that he can’t rely on his girlfriend to be honest with him and level with him about what he is asking.
Don’t be that person.
Instead, be a person that he knows he can trust to tell him the truth.
This is actually what makes him feel more comforted.
This is what gets him out of this slump.
He can trust in his girlfriend to tell him the truth and keep things honest.
In asking you about a shortcoming he believes that he has and wanting to get your opinion about its validity, tell him the truth.
Don’t tell him a lie so as to make him feel better about himself.
The most comforting thing you can do for him is tell him the honest truth.
If you believe that indeed he does have that shortcoming, tell him your opinion.
You don’t have to elaborate unless he asks you to.
Your boyfriend will appreciate your honesty.
He suspected all along that he had this problem but wasn’t ready to acknowledge it.
Now, it’s out in the open.
Now he gets to come to terms with it.
This comforts him and gives him a sense of relief.
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