It’s best to not date someone who cheated on a previous partner.
If they cheated on a previous partner, there is a good chance that they will cheat on you eventually.
This is the best approach if you want to save yourself from heartache.
People who have cheated on their previous partners also tend to have a history of cheating. You may discover if you were to do a little investigation that their previous partner was not the first.
You do need to understand that no matter how amazing you may think this person is, you are not necessarily anything special.
I can guarantee you that the last person that was cheated on by this person also believed that they were special. They also believed that because they were special, they simply couldn’t be cheated on.
Well, they got cheated on.
How special were they in the end?
This is where people start coming up with excuses as well.
They start talking about how they truly feel that this person reacts to them so much better. They talk about how this person must have cheated because they were going through such a rough time. They talk about how bad that ex must have been in order to force this person to cheat on them.
They line up a whole bunch of excuses because they want more than anything to tell themselves that this time is going to be different.
This person isn’t going to cheat on me.
I am way different from the people that this person dated in the past.
What I have with this person is so much more meaningful than what they had with their previous partner.
We have such an amazing bond and connection.
There is no way this person is going to cheat on me like they did their previous partner.
We get along so much better.
What happens later?
A few weeks, months or years down the road, this person cheats.
Now, all those excuses you were giving for them are worthless.
They are worthless because this person has done it again. They are worthless because you now realize that you were being irrational.
You wanted this relationship to happen so bad that you wanted to overlook the bad and cling to your desire.
From here, it is literally emotional mayhem.
You are already in love with this person. They have just cheated on you like they did their previous partner and you are so hurt.
However, you still love this person.
This person proceeds to give you the excuses.
They are so sorry for what they did. They were so weak at the time. They promise that they will never do it again.
You are angry at them but you still love them. So, what do you end up doing?
You decide to give them another chance. You are blinded by your love and your desperate hope that this time they will be different and will live up to what they have promised you.
It’s good for a while. A month or two may go by without incident but then the unthinkable happens.
They cheat again.
Now, you have entered a cycle.
The moment you forgave them and kept the relationship alive is the moment that you reinforced the fact that they could get away with this. This only emboldened them. This is why they have cheated again on you.
What do you do now?
How could this person betray you again?
But you love this person so much.
They are telling you yet again about how sorry they are and they promise that it won’t happen again.
You take them back and the cycle of cheating starts all over again.
You should never ever want to put yourself in this position.
You will literally be so miserable that you will lose your sense of dignity and self worth.
This is not the kind of relationship that you should aspire to.
Your best option is to stay away from this kind of person.
Cheating can easily become a habit when you are dealing with someone who tends to get away with it time and time again.
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