It isn’t wrong to not share everything with your boyfriend.

There are things that you want to keep to yourself.

There is nothing wrong with that.

Keeping some things to yourself is helpful to a relationship.

It lets you retain a degree of your individuality.

When people get into relationships, they believe that they should share everything.

They believe that this is what is supposed to happen in a relationship.

Ergo, they share in all things.

This causes complications as the relationship progresses.

Whenever a partner doesn’t share something, their counterpart gets offended.

Whenever a partner forgets to mention how much they love the other, their counterpart feels like they are not being loved as much as they should.

Whenever a partner has the urge to do something independently, with a friend, for instance, their counterpart feels like they are about to be abandoned and gets upset.

This leads to the partner who was going to do something independently deciding to cancel their plans on account of their counterpart being upset.

You see, when a relationship is reliant on everything being shared, it gets burdensome.

There is no sense of independence.

This is unhealthy in a relationship.

You have to give the relationship the latitude to breathe.

When you are repeatedly sharing everything with a partner, the relationship gets predictable.

This leads to boredom, and culminates in a breakup.

Boredom sets in when you know what to expect from your partner.

It sets in when you have extinguished every last bit of independence that you once had coming into the relationship.

There is nothing new anymore, as you share everything.

There are no new stories to tell in the future, considering you haven’t given yourselves the opportunity to create new stories.

When your boyfriend wants to share everything with you and you acquiesce, sooner or later, there is nothing left to share.

Your boyfriend knows what you are all about and what your secrets are.

He knows exactly how you are going to respond to certain situations, knowing your mannerisms.

He knows how to get his way, thanks to how predictable you are.

Sooner or later, he uses what you have told him against you.

In the heat of an argument, he brings up an a negative incident that occurred in your past just to hurt you or spite you.

You were grappling with the repercussions of this incident and you weren’t fully recovered from its effects.

Despite this, your boyfriend uses the subject of this incident to your disadvantage, so that he gains the upper hand in an argument.

You see, there are certain things better kept to yourself.

Never lose your sense of individuality in a relationship.

Doing so leads to disempowerment, boredom and unhappiness.

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