He likes the idea of pretending that you are his girlfriend but isn’t enthusiastic about making that a reality by taking the action required to come and see you or message you.

Making it a reality and announcing it to the world puts unwanted pressure on him.

There are guys who are perfectly content playing pretend, with no intention of being authentic.

This way, it is a lot easier for him to be inconsistent in his behavior towards you.

He gives the excuse that he didn’t have to come and see you or message you, being that he isn’t your real boyfriend.

He uses this excuse over and over again, knowing that he isn’t officially your boyfriend.

Though he kissed you, he didn’t look at that as a sign of commitment.

He has kissed lots of girls and meant nothing by it.

You on the other hand, haven’t had as much experience in kissing and relationships.

As a result, you believe that his kiss must have meant something.

You convince yourself that the kiss must mean that you are his girlfriend now.

The truth is, the kiss was more of a ploy to keep you interested in him.

He knows that by giving you that kiss, he has consequently gotten you hooked.

Unfortunately, you are dealing with a guy that likes to string girls along without committing to them.

You aren’t the first girl he has done this to.

It isn’t unrealistic to think that he is currently doing the same thing that he is doing to you with a different girl.

He has learned to play this game exceedingly well.

He knows that by kissing you and giving you just enough to get you hooked into believing that he sees you as a girlfriend, keeps you coming back.

You are coming back for more, hopeful that this eventually leads to a bona fide relationship and commitment.

When he doesn’t bother to come and see you or even message you, he knows that you are going to forgive him anyway.

He is fully aware of this type of behavior from women, given that he has given multiple girls in his past the impression that he was their boyfriend.

He knows that you are bound to become increasingly desperate to get him to commit.

This is a game that he has played before, and he has gotten phenomenally good at.

The risk for you in all this is, you develop deeper feelings for him and he never reciprocates.

When you stay in this situation for too long, you become too emotionally invested in it turning out how you want it to.

This makes it that much harder to get out of a bad situation.

It’s time to let him know that you are no longer pretending.

You are no longer going to tolerate being ignored.

If he doesn’t make this relationship official and adjust his behavior accordingly, it’s time to leave him for good.