It really depends on the situation.

If you are rude or disrespectful in your approach and consequently get rejected, it is your fault.

If you go after someone that you know is already in a relationship with someone else because you feel that the person likes you and then you get rejected, it is your fault.

If you have a negative attitude and you approach a person and get rejected, it is your fault.

If you are constantly going after the same kind of person and consequently get rejected by them, it is your fault.

If you are constantly going after the same individual who has turned you down before and you get rejected, it is your fault.

Again, it really depends on the circumstances in which you got rejected.

The most important lesson to learn here is that this does not have to be a permanent condition.

If you are noticing a pattern of rejection in your life, there is a reason for it.

I have stated some of the obvious above.

You also have to understand that not everyone is going to date you no matter how perfect you are.

Even if you are respectful in your approach, have a whole bunch of positive energy and you are eclectic in the kinds of people you choose to approach or ask out, you will still get rejected.

This is something that you have to understand.

There are people who just won’t date you even if they are single and available.

People are in different circumstances.

Even when it seems that she would be the perfect match for you and she is single, she may not be in the frame of mind to be with someone new.

Though single, she may still be in love with a past partner.

She may still want that past relationship to start over and flourish.

She may be waiting for that.

Even if this isn’t about a past partner that she still wants to be with, she may just not want to date at this time.

Perhaps she just got out of a long-term relationship and she just wants to have her freedom for now without having to worry about getting into another committed relationship.

Again, there are so many different circumstances that you could be dealing with when you have faced rejection.

The key here is not to take rejection so personally.

Oftentimes, the person who rejected you doesn’t know you all that well, if at all.

Even if they do know you, they haven’t gotten to see the side of you that is romantic.

They have no idea what kind of partner you would be.

Hence, your rejection wasn’t based on what is true about you as a person.

It was based on her own circumstances and interpretation.

When rejection is your fault, you have allowed yourself to make the same mistakes over and over again.

At some point, you have to be wiser and make a change.

However, in the end, rejection should be looked at as an opportunity as opposed to a negativity.

This is either a chance for you to better yourself as a person if you are noticing a pattern in rejections or a chance for you to move on to the next girl that would be a better match for you anyway.

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